Telling the truth, like any act of courage, is a risk. But it is a risk that I am more than glad to take. We get very little time on this earth and to waste it either telling lies or believing in them is a terrible shame.
Research indicates is that porn's probability of becoming problematic is first and foremost directly due to one's repression reaction. It's this suppression of the desire to look at porn that boosts one's longing for it.
Discerning readers of the "progressive blogosphere" will likely have noticed a growing tendency to title articles in the form of "Top 10 Best..." I'd like to explore this practice in such a way as to (hopefully) wear it out altogether.
It seems both sad and paradoxical to me that so often we sabotage our desires -- our forward propulsion -- with the need to feel deserving of what they might yield before we allow ourselves to accept or act on them.
Wholesome desires are those energetic feelings that arise from non-grasping love, compassion, and empathy toward others. However, even wholesome desire can lead to unskillful acts and to all manner of suffering if it becomes an obsession.