Because many women have been raised to think "catching a man" is their top objective, women often approach dating as a prolonged marketing campaign. By spending your time trying to sell, you forget to consider whether you're interested in buying.
When you're slogging through a divorce sometimes it's hard to imagine what your future is going to look like. That uncertainty can breed anxiety -- and too much anxiety can hamper a healthy divorce recovery.
Women who are not in relationships make easy prey. They suddenly find themselves nostalgic for the time before their divorce when everyone was one big happy family. If this describes you, black magic is playing tricks on your mind. You weren't one big happy family. That's why you got a divorce.
If you are divorced, or in the process, BEWARE! Not of your ex-spouse, but of self-help "gurus" promising you a quick fix or time limited recovery program guaranteed to get you over the heartbreak of divorce.
Dating after separation or divorce can be exhilarating and fun, quite different than before you were married. You are now more mature and have greater life experiences than any other time in your life.
When looking forward becomes habitual, problems can start to develop. There is a reason that so many people (including grandparents, yoga instructors, self-help authors) tell you to live in the now. That's where happiness resides.
And finally there are some, and this might include your own kids, who distance themselves out of divided loyalties or because they simply do not know how to deal with your situation. I call these family members and friends who have disappointed you your Frenemies.
Step 1: Admit that you are powerless in your marriage and that your lives together have come to an end. Like an addict, you have hit rock bottom in your marriage, and have tried everything to save it with no success.