Whether you initiated the divorce, or the divorce was tossed in your lap, you have the same goal: to go on with your life. And you cannot do this if you are consumed with winning, or with controlling circumstances that are beyond your control.
Divorce can be one of the most stressful events in life, second only to a spouse dying. In fact, a divorce can become such a complicated and nasty affair that many people have joked that a spouse dying is a less stressful event because at least you don't have to fight the deceased in court!
University of Arizona psychological scientist David Sbarra and colleagues decided to investigate the underpinnings of expressive writing, but they wanted to do more than that. They also wanted to see if they might improve upon the intervention.