If you are a recent widow or divorcee reading this, I truly empathized with you. Besides managing your grief, you are trying to deal with monumental changes in your life and are facing a growing list of perpetually unfamiliar monetary choices.
Long-term character contouring is not for you. You crave a ready match and your compatibility list is firm (loves dogs, plays chess, financially independent). But how willing you are to modify or even disregard that list?