For a long time I had no interest in and was opposed to getting married. I believed that we didn't need the state to validate our relationship. I already knew its value and our commitment to each other. And then a funny thing happened: I lost my job and needed health insurance.
We're unequivocally in favor of marriage equality. But this lower "level" of commitment has been worth something in its own right to us -- not just for the health benefits, but for the ways it helped us see exactly what we wanted from our relationship.
If the love of your life had major surgery or a serious illness, you would want to be by their side. You'd want to take time off work without losing your job to give them the care they need. But if you're gay, you have no such right under federal law.
I think as people continue to see so much of politics as usual in this town -- partisan bickering and big money buying votes -- they are increasingly likely to vote against whatever represents the old politics for them.