Drag is addictive, as much as you think it won't, it will get in your blood and you will be addicted to it. You will begin to think about it more times than not and want to know what Queens are performing and where.
When you are married to a drag queen, her art touches every part of your life. I constantly try to pull away from drag, because I need a balance. However, drag is like an eight-armed octopus, a dragopus, that can reach into every part of your life and pull you back toward it.
Vivian occupies an interesting position in the world of drag. She does not compete, does not have a drag family, is older than most of the other newer queens, and is a big girl. Each factor has its own challenge, but add them all together and you have one large obstacle course.
For me it is funny how some thing that can bring me so much frustration from time to time, Drag, can be tied to some thing I love deeply, music. I guess it's that love of music that allows me navigate the turbulent waters of Drag.
You do drag for the first time because you want to be called "fierce." You do drag because you really want to be on that boat invading the Pines. You do drag because your best friend told you that the only version you should attempt is the grotesque one, and he said that scoffingly.
The more Vivian performed and become known throughout Columbus, the more Jeff became Vivian. Now, when I say, "Jeff became Vivian," I'm not referring to his actions or his personality but to how others, including me, see him.
Every now and again, when I'm at a show with Vivian, people come up to me and comment on how I'm always there for Vivian or how I'm always carrying her stuff. Some have even gone as far as saying I'm a saint. To be honest, I don't understand it. For me, supporting Vivian just makes sense.
One side effect of being a drag queen's husband is that drag is everywhere. What I mean by this is that anything I hear or see suddenly becomes inspiration for a number for Vivian. Basically I have drag on the brain 24/7.
I've told you what I've learned from being married to drag queen, so I thought I would continue along those lines and debunk 10 myths. Some of these are myths I believed before Jeff created Vivian, and others are myths I learned existed only after getting involved in the drag community.
I have been out for over 20 years and in that time I have "come out" several times. First it was to family and friends as gay, and then there was coming out at the Forbes Top 100 Company I work for and last as a Drag Queen's husband.
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