When one Illinois middle school cluelessly decided to ban leggings and yoga pants because they were "distracting to the boys," they probably didn't have any idea it would be the catalyst to a national conversation about dress codes in school.
Even I, who did not suffer first hand from bullying, can remember being comforted by the fact that all of my peers would be wearing the same thing, regardless of how popular, fashionable, beautiful, or wealthy they may be.
It's Q1, recruiting season, and whereas I don't have any job interviews lined up right now, I was suddenly apprehensive about having an "ethnic hairstyle" in front of people who would be scrutinizing everything about me, not only my professional qualifications.
You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies.
Dress codes facilitate abuse, first by enforcing the notion that there is a "right" and a "wrong" way to dress, and that transgressers can and should be punished, and secondly by normalizing the punishment. There is no legitimate reason for this.
We've put together a few favorite looks for some of the more popular, yet unconventional, attire requests seen on wedding invitations this summer, demystifying those dress codes that leave you clueless.
Girls and LGTBQ youth are disproportionately affected by school dress codes. Challenging schools to align unexamined, traditional dress codes to contemporary values is a tangible place to start if you're interested in teaching kids to live in a diverse, tolerant society.
Admittedly, I haven't been a public school student for a long, long time. So it came as an enormous surprise when I saw a proliferation of newspaper reports and blogs describing midriff-baring, sweatpants- and pajama-bottom-wearing teachers. Surely, this couldn't be!
My girlfriend couldn't contain the surprise and horror at what my daughter was wearing in public. She stared at me open-mouthed, waiting for some sensible answer, like maybe all of my child's pants were dirty or better yet, stolen.