Thank goodness for arcane unintelligibility! Hurrah for gobbledygook! For without it, there could never be any public intellectuals. In fact, the lifeblood of scholars who are public intellectuals is exactly the kind of complex and often indecipherable academic work that Kristof bemoans. You cannot have one without the other.
As a therapist who works with individuals and couples, I can tell you: you have every chance of finding happiness if you're single in your 30s or 40s or beyond. College is a time to have fun, learn about yourself, and define your goals. Many women in their 20s aren't ready to pick a life partner yet.