We have all heard that love makes you go weak in the knees but in reality love makes us stronger. The easiest way to identify love is through our ability to recognize a greater amount of strength and confidence. So a benchmark of a good relationship is the strength it gives you to fight a zillion battles.
We should never make the mistake of thinking that what's in official reports about Extension (or anything else, for that matter) is the whole story. Or sometimes even the real story. And that we should never confuse official reports, mission statements, theories, lists of goals and objectives, and the like with actual practice.