Find your courage and love, fully and completely. Trust and live in your heart. Love takes you from the head to the heart and nurtures, comforts and heals you. Learn from each experience, watch the ego and choose love.
Allow your actions and your accomplishments to win the respect you already know you deserve. It is not always the loudest voice that wins the war. Invariably, it is an unyielding determination and an unwavering vision that ultimately takes the crown.
The teaching that we must stop judging and "shoulding" is like a tourniquet to the out-of-control ego, designed to stop the constant chatter of judgment so that the fresh air of unfiltered experience can enter. Here is where the teaching of "no judgment" turns catastrophic.
Everybody is guilty of not being completely upfront and nobody on earth is pure unless they are either a newborn baby or an unconditionally removed person who lives out of society, in a place where the only thing that matters is love of nature, compassion and ultimate respect for all creatures.
I often write about the power of shame in the context of recovery. But shame is a human problem, and long-time Christians are in no ways immune. I was a Christian--and a slave to shame--for more than a decade before I became a slave to alcohol.
As we communicate, we read the content and emotions being sent. Conversations are more than the information we share or words we speak. They are a way to package our feelings about ourselves, our world, and others.
Because of my 40th birthday, I've been thinking a lot about this milestone and also reflecting on age in general. 40 seems like a pretty big and important number, although it doesn't feel how I thought it would feel.
Worse, my red and white leather running shoes were ruined; caked in mud and scuffed from toe to heel. I cursed aloud, " No shirt, no shoes, no proof -- who's going to believe me when I talk about this death-defying adventure?
1. Communicate issues and propositions, not personal attacks. Personal attacks will immediately push them into a defensive and confrontational mode and they will not be inclined to agree to anything you have to say.
It's amazing how the struggle in your life will decrease when you realize life is not about you: It's about everyone in the world. Prejudice and bigotry will decline when sharing space becomes more important than 'my' space.
Creating the illusion that we are the dust on the mirror, the ego ensures that we believe we could never be so beautiful as the radiant reflection beneath the surface. Yet how extraordinary to believe that we cannot be free when freedom is our true nature!
It takes a tremendous amount of effort to uphold a fixed identity. We have to keep doing things that a "person like us" would do. We have to keep making sure that nothing happens that threatens our identity or who we have decided "we are."