So many of us have been taught that we need to "weigh less in order to live more," but I really believe we have to live more in order to weigh less. We have to stop waiting on the weight and start having fun -- only then will we finally stop being a slave to food and get out of body jail.

Most of the time our problems are within our control to fix, and eating is likely not going to help. Thus, what we should be doing is focusing on how to fix our problems. That's where problem-focused coping comes in.

There is no surgery, no drug, nor herbal remedies or diets that surrender total control of our eating to the stomach. Surgery to make the stomach look like a banana rather than an apple will be the answer to permanent weight loss only when we understand why we are overeating.