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Emotional Pain

Support After Suicide: How Making Connections With Other Survivors Can Breathe Life Into a Dying Heart

Christy Heitger-Ewing | Posted 11.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Christy Heitger-Ewing

It's been 19 months since Mom died. As I reflect on the weeks and months following Mom's suicide, I realize how precariously my life hung in the balance. Back then I couldn't envision a day when the color, focus, or meaning would return to my world.

Why Experiencing Pain Can Be a Good Thing

The Huffington Post | Sahaj Kohli | Posted 07.25.2014 | Healthy Living

All of us experience physical pain, and understandably go to great lengths to avoid it. But pain serves a very real purpose. Dr. Fernando Cervero,d...

Got Rejected? How You Respond Can Damage Your Emotional Health

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

The bottom line is that rejections are a fact of life -- we all experience them and we all hurt when we do. The best thing we can do is to soothe our emotional pain, take steps to revive our self-esteem, and to connect to our core groups and by doing so remind ourselves that others value and love us even if our date does not.

Surviving the First Year of Grief

Christy Heitger-Ewing | Posted 06.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Christy Heitger-Ewing

Yesterday marked the one-year anniversary of my mom's death. That means I've endured many of the difficult "firsts" that grievers dread -- first birthdays, holidays, and school events. This one-year mark also signifies that I've learned how to live in a world without my mom in it.

How Loss Affects Our Daily Lives

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 05.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Recovering from loss takes time but there are ways to treat our psychological injuries. Caring for our emotional wounds will help accelerate the recovery process so we emerge from our loss with our lives, identities, relationships, and beliefs intact.

How Social Media Plays A Role In Our Emotional Health

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 04.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Although there are a thousand ways to feel rejected on social media, 999 of them are probably not personal. Assuming the worst in these situations will not only cause you unnecessary hurt, it can make you reach incorrect conclusions about your friendships and assume problems exist where they do not.

Distancing Ourselves From a Loved One's Pain: Why Friends and Loved Ones Appear Callous and Removed

SaraKay Smullens | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
SaraKay Smullens

Fear is not the only reason we back away from difficulty in the lives of those dear to us. What one learns during childhood from those who raise us also sets the stage for the ability to show kindness and caring. Unrecognized envy and jealousy can also play a role in how we respond.

Loneliness Is a Silent Killer

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 11.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Few people are aware of how dangerous it is to "inhale" two packs a day of emotional isolation. Because loneliness is viewed merely as an unfortunate circumstance and not as the silent killer it is, it rarely triggers a sense of urgency in the person who suffers from it.

This Is Your Brain on Rejection

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 10.15.2013 | Science
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Rejections are the most common psychological injury we encounter in daily life. The one thing all rejections have in common is -- they hurt! So, what exactly happens in our brains that makes rejections so painful?

Never Waste a Good Trigger: Part Two

Ana Forrest | Posted 06.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Ana Forrest

We can use emotional and physical triggers to lead us onto a path of discovery. The unwinding and healing of the trauma trail has many steps. Each step taken is an act of power, which also builds self-respect.

4 Ways You Might Be Rejecting Yourself

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Fear of rejection is a big issue for many people -- and it used to be for me, too. I used to be so worried about how others felt about me that I was often anxious in my interactions with them -- always trying to say and do the "right" thing so they would like me or at least think well of me.

The Pain That Shapes Our Internal Terrain

Raymond Torres | Posted 01.29.2013 | Healthy Living
Raymond Torres

We rarely communicate a thought that isn't contaminated in one way or another by some form of pain. Our thought and social life has been compromised by our imperfect interactions, which are grounded in latent animosities.

On The Fear Of Pain: 'Pain Is Inevitable, But Suffering Is Optional'

Tara Brach | Posted 01.21.2013 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

When painful sensations arise and we can simply meet them with clarity and presence, we can see that pain is just pain. We can listen to pain's message and respond appropriately -- taking good care.

How To Overcome Regret

Dr. Debbie Magids | Posted 01.21.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Debbie Magids

Most of my clients this week had a theme of being stuck in regret. And I laughed to myself because I was actually in the middle of doing the same round of work on myself that I was asking them to do. Since I was so raw in this area, I was even more able to help than usual.

Embracing Your Pain

Dr. Debbie Magids | Posted 12.25.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Debbie Magids

The truth is that the most important thing for our complete and total well-being is to authentically be in touch with our emotions. The ability to let yourself truly feel your feelings is really the key to joy.

Are You Trying To Fill A Void? Why You Should Embrace It Instead

Stephenie Zamora | Posted 12.11.2012 | Healthy Living
Stephenie Zamora

The only way to be happy, healthy and whole is to face and deal with the voids you carry in your heart and soul. If something is missing, broken or empty inside of you, there is no person or thing that will fill it. Only you can heal yourself and close the voids.

'Don't I Have A Right to Be Angry?'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 10.26.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We always have the right to feel whatever we feel. We also have the right to express anger when we feel hurt or betrayed. However, the real question is not whether you have the right, but whether or not your anger is working for you.

Navigating by Heart: Loving the Pain

Martha Boston | Posted 09.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Martha Boston

When I'm in emotional pain, I'm a much slower learner. I want to fight the pain, banish its cause, punish its stimulus. Sometimes I remember that the key to loving it is to accept the pain, to surrender to it, become one with it.

Are the Bus Bullies Monsters?

Amy Weber | Posted 08.22.2012 | Education
Amy Weber

In the short number of days since the Karen Klein story broke, several of the 13-year-old boys involved have received death threats. Why is it so much easier to see these kids as inhumane monsters than it is to see them as children who are in need of serious help?

Tackling Shame: 'Shame's Primary Power Is to Make Us Afraid of Being Vulnerable.' Part I

George Molho | Posted 06.24.2012 | Healthy Living
George Molho

The beauty of vulnerability is in its expression. Its power resides in embracing it. By being unafraid to be vulnerable you will shrink shame, make a feast of fear and starve insecurities.

Does Pain Affect Our Behavior Toward Others?

Julie Chen, M.D. | Posted 12.26.2011 | Healthy Living
Julie Chen, M.D.

When you are in pain, does it ever seem like nothing else matters except you and your pain? Well, you may not be alone in this feeling.

5 Simple Steps For Handling Emotional Pain

Maggie Lyon | Posted 12.12.2011 | Healthy Living
Maggie Lyon

Crises happen. When life gets messy, and it most reliably does, it is at times harder than hard to keep ourselves upright and unified in the middle of the craziness.

Processing Personal Pain -- A Baha'i View

Brent Poirier | Posted 05.25.2011 | Religion
Brent Poirier

Loved ones who prove false; friends who hurt our feelings; disappointments with ourselves; grief and longing -- whatever its cause, pain can be an incentive to spiritual growth.

When The Heart Breaks Open

Gangaji | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Gangaji

In addition to supporting you in taking necessary steps to heal from loss or to correct abusive situations, I would like to offer a simple, yet radical, invitation: take a moment, by yourself, without fixing or avoiding the pain, and fully open to it.