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Emotional Resilience

Don't Shoot the Second Arrow!

Susan Bernstein | Posted 04.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Susan Bernstein

Apparently, the Buddhists say that any time we suffer misfortune, two arrows fly our way. The first arrow is the actual bad event, which can can, indeed, cause pain. The second arrow is the suffering. That's actually optional. The second arrow represents our reaction to the bad event.

Why We Are Together but Feel Alone

Umar Zulqarnain | Posted 03.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Umar Zulqarnain

Technology allows us to hide from others while being connected. We can edit who we are, what we say, and how we are perceived. We become willing to dispense with people and comfortable with being dispensed. We can decide when to communicate and how much.

How Much Do You Value Your Freedom?

Jo Warwick | Posted 03.25.2014 | Women
Jo Warwick

With each surrender of your attention, energy and time accepting other people's expectations, regulations and perceptions without question or resistance, you're slowly building a prison for yourself.

The Gift of Tears

Sukey Forbes | Posted 02.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Sukey Forbes

There is a richness to an emotional life. A gift in feeling. It is a blessing to be aware enough of that which goes on inside and around us. It is a great gift to us as human beings that we can take in, process, and express our feelings.

Loneliness Is a Point of View...

Robert Levithan | Posted 02.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Robert Levithan

A clearer understanding and acceptance of oneself is the route to connection. My last partner, who was HIV negative, told me that my OKness with my HIV status helped him be comfortable with it.

21 Ways To Live A Resilient Life

Michelle Renee | Posted 03.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Michelle Renee

Why compare myself to anyone else when we are all so different, all needed here as much as the next person to make this crazy thing called life work?

What Your Emotional Health Has in Common With Cinderella

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 02.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

You can prioritize your emotional health as much as you do your physical and dental health. You can monitor your mood and self-esteem and take actions to boost them when they are low. And by doing these things, you can significantly boost your emotional wellness, your happiness and your overall life satisfaction.

How To Survive The Tough Times, From Martha Stewart (VIDEO)

Posted 12.02.2013 | MarloThomas

How does Martha Stewart overcome tough times? Martha says that two especially tough times in her own life were her divorce, and the legal problem whic...

Betrayed, Bamboozled and Broken: Surviving Love Gone Wrong

Pamela Levin | Posted 11.07.2013 | Divorce
Pamela Levin

Let go of the "Ggrrr!" (aka guilt, guilt, regret, regret regret). Don't get caught in the mental loop of "why me?" It won't serve you here.

How to Overcome the Fear of Failure

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Overcoming our critical inner voice can be a vital step in becoming more emotionally resilient. We can learn skills to become hardier, and we can face challenges with fewer internal setbacks.

Recovering Your Balance After the Doctor Breaks the News (And Your World Turns Upside Down)

John-Manuel Andriote | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
John-Manuel Andriote

You and I can let ourselves be defined and weighed down by a medical diagnosis or any other of our lives' difficult experiences. We can keep our world flipped over if we choose to. Or we can choose to claim our power and live while we are alive.

The Chicago Marathon That Changed My Life: Stories Left Behind Must Be Shared

Todd Kestin | Posted 01.23.2014 | Chicago
Todd Kestin

Look around you and you'll see adolescents and young adults who look to you to learn how you rise above the flood. To take your tools into their own arsenal. To build on your experiences.

A Simple Self-Esteem Boost That Improves Emotional Strength

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 11.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Self-affirmation exercises are an effective way to boost our self-esteem and by doing so, increase our emotional resilience and become better protected against the various psychological injuries we encounter in daily life.

My First Bass Weejuns: How Trying to Fit Into a Champagne Culture Can Undermine the Health of Gay Men With Beer Budgets

John-Manuel Andriote | Posted 11.06.2013 | Gay Voices
John-Manuel Andriote

When you have a young gay man, eager to fit into the sophisticated gay world of a big city, lacking a high-paying job or family funds to support an upscale lifestyle, the result can often be credit problems -- and even more insidious problems.

The Secret to Raising a Resilient Child

Renee Jain | Posted 11.04.2013 | Parents
Renee Jain

Our natural instinct as teachers, parents and caretakers is to protect children from hardship, yet we know walking between the raindrops of adversity is not possible. Instead of sidestepping challenge, we can teach kids to cope positively, to learn and grow from adversity.

What I've Realized About My Daughter While She Is Away At Camp

Carrie Goldman | Posted 10.04.2013 | Parents
Carrie Goldman

A mother is only as happy as her least-happy child. I couldn't get a read on my child, because I couldn't see her or talk with her. Was the homesickness the defining state of her being right now? Or was she having a grand old time with occasional bouts of homesickness at night?

Extreme Resiliency: Owning Where We Are

Michelle Renee | Posted 07.30.2013 | Style
Michelle Renee

A client said to me yesterday, "The worst part is that he makes me feel like I am a burden." This is a sensitive one to address when speaking to someo...

What To Do When You're Forced Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Dr. Carmen Harra | Posted 07.24.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Carmen Harra

Rightfully so, unforeseen changes cause distress, uncertainty, and a pressing sense of fear. So what are we to do when our habits are interrupted and our stability is tested? Keep these few truths in minds when the comfort rug is swept from under your feet.

How Successful People Handle Rejection

Alex Pattakos | Posted 07.21.2013 | Healthy Living
Alex Pattakos

It takes courage to know who we are and what we stand for. It takes courage to act from the core of our own being -- our core essence. Learning how to deal effectively with rejection strengthens our sense of self and builds our resilience when confronting life's challenges.

Mother's Day: Lessons From a Year of Hell

Randy Taran | Posted 07.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Randy Taran

This Mother's Day has given me a new perspective on the stages of life, the inner strength that can be called upon even in the toughest of times, and most importantly, the enduring power of love.

How Can We Help Children Bounce Back?

Kenneth Barish, Ph.D. | Posted 07.06.2013 | Parents
Kenneth Barish, Ph.D.

Our task, as parents, is to recognize these common injuries and provide some healing of a child's discouragement and anger. Often, a simple acknowledgment of her disappointment or frustration is all that is necessary.

Want To Tap Into Your Inner Resilience?

meQuilibrium | Posted 06.23.2013 | Healthy Living
meQuilibrium

It's this ability to stay connected, to stand by each other, that has kept the people of Boston strong during one of the worst weeks in the city's storied history. But they're not the only ones who have the ability to shore up resilience. You do. I do.

Travels and Reflection in the Midst of Crisis -- A 9/11 Reflection

Suzanne Guillette | Posted 11.10.2013 | GPS for the Soul
Suzanne Guillette

On the occasion of the anniversary of the 9/11 attacks, I am revisiting my thoughts on the diversity of responses to public tragedies; whether disbelief, anger, fear or ambivalence, they are beautifully reflective of our humanity.

Lessons: Boston and the Human Spirit

Binta Niambi Brown | Posted 06.19.2013 | Impact
Binta Niambi Brown

I am a runner. I'm not likely to ever qualify for Boston, but as always, I will do what I can do... and when I run, will carry Boston in my heart.

Specific Techniques to Boost Your Mood

Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD | Posted 06.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD

Here are some specific techniques to plant the seed of happiness. Do these for a period of three weeks on a consistent, structured, and continues base and check for the results. If you see they are benefiting you, make them a part of your daily life.