We will know what kind of parent we are by how we see our children get along and interact in the world. Love should be the foundation of parenting. It is also important to know that discipline is the highest form of love.
Do we really need all this stuff? Why are we eating so much? Why can't we focus on what's happening right now? The symptoms and effects of affluenza are plentiful, but there is good news -- relief is possible, and it can be put into action right away.
There's nothing wrong with children asking for as much as they'd like to. At a young age, they don't know any better. What's wrong is when parents see that list as a "to-buy" list instead of a "wish" list.
Of course, it shouldn't take a serious recession to remind us that we should be grateful for our good fortunes. But in a world where it's all too easy to lose sight of what's going right, there may be long-term gains from short-term losses.
When the trophy becomes more important than the activity itself, when children are uninterested in improving their skills, or when a child believes that just showing up is good enough, these attitudes also have deeper causes.
What we've taught today's children is that they get a trophy and a snack simply for showing up. We've taught them that everything should be celebrated with food and a party. And we've taught them that ordinary days -- with no treats or parties -- are somehow lacking.
There's no question that many are down on socialism, or most any other "foreign" ism. But few can have a grasp of what it is. They must be driven by a media-stoked fear of the unknown since the alignment of power in this country now is far from socialistic.
The jury is still out on whether narcissism has in fact grown from one generation to the next. Frankly, it's hard to make any valid, reliable statements about what millions of people who happened to born in the same two decades have in common.
Our children are special, and our love for them is unconditional. Over time, we help them learn that success (and happiness) is earned -- by sustaining good relationships and hard work. Fred Rogers would undoubtedly agree.
In many of the recent articles on millennials, there is a critical narrative that has emerged and has lead to what I believe is the beginning of a cultural zeitgeist, and that narrative is about purpose.
We should stop taking our American privilege for granted. More of us need to travel to some of the places that time's forgotten. We need to take a good look at them and then at ourselves. And guess what? We might not have to go farther than our own hometowns to do that.
All parents, understandably, love and hope to be loved by their children. But that shouldn't be the goal to the exclusion of all others. And Bruni isn't far from the mark when he claims parents often half-expect children to be able to raise themselves without any set rules or boundaries.
Somehow, over the last fifteen years, parents have increasingly embraced the idea that rules are for other people's children, and that bending them to make things easier in the short term is a good idea.
It isn't until later in life that most people discover one of the keys to happiness: gratitude. The concept of thankfulness can be difficult for adults to embrace, and even harder for children and teens who believe the world revolves around them. Here's how to begin.