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Overcoming Desperation for Connection, Love and Marriage

Paul Katz | Posted 07.07.2014 | Gay Voices
Paul Katz

The fact that I couldn't put aside my sense of loneliness in order to be or feel happy for others scared the crap out of me. That is not who I am or who I want to be.

12 Cold Facts About Being Super-Hot

Billi Gordon, Ph.D. | Posted 06.03.2014 | Women
Billi Gordon, Ph.D.

Pretty is a thing, whereas beauty is a force. Although we live in a world where physical appearance is a currency, a differential engine drives life, ...

When 'Beasts' Are Out of Their Cages: Why Are Some People So Mean, and How Can I Protect Myself From Them?

SaraKay Smullens | Posted 03.25.2014 | Healthy Living
SaraKay Smullens

My 20-year-old client, a college senior, was both sobbing with pain and shaking with rage. She had learned just a few hours before she called for an ...

How To Get Over Facebook Envy

Lisa Earle McLeod | Posted 03.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Earle McLeod

Humans are called the "comparing creatures." Comparing ourselves to others is how we make sense of life. Comparisons can inspire us to grow and change. Comparisons can also provide helpful examples of what we don't want to be. But comparisons without context don't tell the full story.

Forget Orchid; Green Is My Color for an Entrepreneurial 2014

Marian Salzman | Posted 03.09.2014 | Business
Marian Salzman

Some days I have blue eyes; other days they are green. On New Year's Eve they were green ... with envy and with thoughts of how to finally hit the jac...

The Important Connection That Will Help You Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Elizabeth McKenzie | Posted 03.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Elizabeth McKenzie

The good news is, it's actually not that hard: once you connect to your center, there is literally no room for comparison. It doesn't exist. All there is is you and your truth. In fact, you are your truth. And that's a pretty amazing way to live.

3 Ways To Turn Envy Into A Tool For Growth

meQuilibrium | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
meQuilibrium

If you deny or externalize envy, you're actually losing out. Envy is in fact one of those fiery hot emotions that, with a little work, you can use.

The Best Man Holiday

Dwight Brown | Posted 01.23.2014 | Black Voices
Dwight Brown

Running into old friends often brings up mixed feelings. Fond recollections. Unfinished business. Bad memories. Petty rivalries. Insecurities. Unrequited love. That's the range of emotions and dynamics in this follow-up film to the 1999 romantic comedy.

10 Friendship Rules to Live By

Carlin Flora | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Carlin Flora

Over the years, I've learned a few things about friendship. Here are my top 10 friendship rules to live by.

Write What You Know

Mark Rubinstein | Posted 01.23.2014 | Books
Mark Rubinstein

As a physician, forensic psychiatrist and novelist, it would be easy for me to write about medicine, psychiatry and courtrooms -- all of which have been, or are still, part of my life and experiences.

When Jealousy Visits Your Relationship

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 11.16.2013 | Weddings
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

Practically everyone who's been in a serious romantic relationship with all of the deliciously intense and passionate feelings that go with it, have at one time or another experienced jealousy.

How To Keep Facebook In Perspective

meQuilibrium | Posted 10.23.2013 | Healthy Living
meQuilibrium

Facebook was not designed to be a divine oracle. It's supposed to be fun. It's your own personalized tabloid news feed, except it's people spreading gossip about themselves. Which in itself is laughable. Keep that in mind and you'll be just fine.

Why Are Humans So Cruel?

Michael Shammas | Posted 09.07.2013 | College
Michael Shammas

Recent science is shedding light on this question, and the main culprit at work seems to be envy. The more we envy someone, the more pleasure we derive when that person meets some horrid end.

Reuniting with the Golden Girl

Judith Greenberg, Ph.D. | Posted 08.18.2013 | Women
Judith Greenberg, Ph.D.

I remember first seeing her after my "freshman trip" -- a ritual three-day hike embarked upon by freshmen before the official beginning of school. Tan, tall and radiating confidence, she sat in the front of the circle. If Mattel made an "outdoor Barbie," it would have looked just like her.

Are You Threatened By Other People's Success?

Mike Robbins | Posted 07.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Mike Robbins

What if we stopped the comparison game altogether?  What if the success of others had nothing to do with us, and our own success had nothing to do with anyone else?  What if we didn't spend aso much of our precious time focusing on how we "measure up" to the people around us?

Under The E-Fluence: How I Broke the Cycle of Compare and Despair

Sara Zambrelli | Posted 06.29.2013 | Women
Sara Zambrelli

When I am in touch with my most authentic self, I am not engaged in the bottomless pit that is social media. When I am busy being myself, I am not looking over my shoulder to see what other people have or what they are doing or what they like.

The Facebook Effect

Tarun Sakhrani | Posted 06.12.2013 | Technology
Tarun Sakhrani

As technology penetrates our lives even further, we must realize that it is a tool that can be used to our benefit; it must not become a detriment to our own well-being. We can use it to enjoy or learn from others, but realize that there is much more to it than meets the eye.

The Facebook Status Everyone Should Read

Rebecca Lammersen | Posted 06.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Rebecca Lammersen

We forget. We forget that there is something greater that dwells amidst the accolades, the trips and the fancy meals -- the every day of life. This understanding has become lost as social networking sites become our primary source of communication. We deliberately try to set ourselves apart, to be seen, to be happier than the update before us.

WATCH: Rick Warren On Fulfilling Your Purpose

OWN | Posted 02.20.2013 | OWN

After reading tens of thousands of letters and talking to people over the last 10 years, Pastor Rick Warren -- bestselling author of The Purpose Drive...

The Conservative Culture War on California

James Peron | Posted 04.02.2013 | Politics
James Peron

A fiscally sane agenda is needed for California, but as long as Republicans or conservatives package it by stereotyping Mexicans, the young, gays, "coastal elites," or whoever else they wish to drag into their damned "culture war," it doesn't have a chance.

The Geek's Guide the Writing Life: Write What Only You Can Write

Stephanie Vanderslice | Posted 03.31.2013 | Books
Stephanie Vanderslice

If you put in the time and the energy and, instead of worrying about the competition, celebrate the fact that someone else is doing wonders with words, wonders that will continue to build a reading and writing future for all of us, you'll find that sweet spot too.

Three Ways to Avoid Facebook Induced FOMO

Adam Smiley Poswolsky | Posted 03.19.2013 | Technology
Adam Smiley Poswolsky

Instead of comparing yourself to others, and feeling jealous on Facebook every time someone is doing something cooler than you are, self-acceptance will give you the confidence to love who you are and position you to support your friends, who in return, will carry you to extraordinary new heights.

Is Jealousy Good For You?

Anne Zouroudi | Posted 02.16.2013 | Books
Anne Zouroudi

It's a familiar, if uncomfortable, feeling. Your best friend announces she's engaged to the handsome doctor she's been dating, and the congratulatory hug you offer lacks genuine warmth.

Hanukkah Light: Looking Out and In During the Holiday Season

Judith Greenberg, Ph.D. | Posted 02.03.2013 | Parents
Judith Greenberg, Ph.D.

Nature has parked itself on small sections of our city's corner. Soon, the trees will be gone, my son observes, sold to homes where they will decorate living rooms and be adorned with bows, ornaments, trinkets and gifts. His living room will be empty of such wonder.

Why I Made A Salad For The Woman I Envied Most

Jane Ratcliffe | Posted 11.25.2012 | Fifty
Jane Ratcliffe

I was roommates with a woman who had also recently divorced and moved from Manhattan to Michigan and had just written her first memoir. In my eyes she was wildly beautiful, witty, had heaps of money, guys lined up to speak to her, and... she got a book deal before I did.