I am not much of a housekeeper. I often tell the story of the time my mother-in-law and my mother got to talking about my housekeeping skills. I don't remember exactly how it came up but their discussion ended with my mother saying, "Well she didn't get that from me."
Preparation yields time. And time is an invaluable currency. Once I organized the major Mom things -- meals, school, scheduling after school activities -- I emerged cleansed, much like that glorious feeling of showering after an exceptionally sweaty workout.
When our children have children of their own, we have to remember that their lives are not ours to live. Your son has "the right" to circle the wagons around his family, but not to be rude and inconsiderate.
Gone are the days of sharing a leisurely cup of coffee over the morning news. My husband and I now sip our daily elixir while watching Chuggington with our granddaughter sandwiched between us on the couch.
Would it be comforting to you to hear more details of his days? Would he prefer to text during the day (just to let you know he's thinking about you) or have one long phone conversation in the evening?
My dad has three daughters and lucky for him, we were fierce adventurers as children who never shied away from camping, fishing or fixing things. Or, perhaps we never shied away because of our father. He taught me many important lessons and I think of them often as I care for my daughter each day.
Regardless of the past, the important issue is how you might better these relationships in the present. One father might be happy with a sincere, carefully conceived letter summing up what he means to you. Another might need to be part of a celebration or want to cook dinner for you.
In recognition of the International Year of the Family, which was first declared by the United Nations on May 15 20 years ago, the Alliance for Children and Families and Generations United set about taking America's temperature on family connections across generations