Get people to face their own hypocrisies rather than tell them they're wrong. Hopefully that can lead to some sort of revelation. Hopefully that can lead to some sort of revelation. But usually -- well, the best I can do is say, "Here, let me give you a hug..." Hey, it works on trees.

Until we find a rational way to stake out our differing positions -- without shouting, finger-pointing, or disrespectfully doctored GIFs of the president -- we will never build consensus or move toward the compromises that everyone knows we're desperate for.

This Thanksgiving, you might not be able to control any one else at the table, but you can maintain your own civility, and sanity, and make it through a holiday in which feelings don't get hurt, slurs don't get thrown, and relatives aren't forced to intervene.

Thanksgiving could be an interesting holiday in one western New York family, coming just after a grandson goes head-to-head with his grandfather in a ...