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Fear of Intimacy

5 Important Relationship Resolutions

Lisa Firestone | Posted 12.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

So what can we do to give ourselves our best chance of maintaining that loving feeling we have when we first realize we are falling for another person? Here are five resolutions I believe all couples would truly benefit from taking on.

A Simple Question That Will Change Your Search for Love

Ken Page | Posted 12.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Ken Page

Often, our very future in finding love is determined by our small choices at these countless crossroads.

What No One Teaches Us About Love

Ken Page | Posted 10.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Ken Page

We do not have to rid ourselves of our fear of intimacy before we can have deeper love. It's the practice of intimacy that gets us past our fear of intimacy.

5 Excuses to Stop Making About Sex

Lisa Firestone | Posted 12.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Our sexuality isn't something we have to pack away, set aside and then go out of our way to uncover. It is something we can carry with us that makes us feel alive. Taking time for sex shouldn't be looked at as an indulgence or an inconvenience. It can be a way to reenergize or relax, reconnect or reestablish feelings of excitement toward our relationship.

The Perfect 'Imperfect' Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 08.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

I don't believe in soul mates. That doesn't mean I don't believe in true love or the idea that two people can find each other and be truly happy together for the rest of their lives. What I reject, rather, is the belief that there is only one person in the world for us.

One Surprising Reason We Sabotage Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can learn what drives contemporary behavior by shining a spotlight on our past. In doing so, we're not dwelling on what happened to us or letting it rule our lives. Rather, we are taking control of our present.

5 Ways We Push Away Relationships (And What To Do About It)

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Is your primary intent in being in a relationship to get love, or is it to share your love with your beloved? If it's to get love -- due to your own self-abandonment -- then your challenge in attracting your beloved is to learn to love yourself and share your love.

5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can start challenging ourselves to accept love -- to return a loving look, rather than turning away in embarrassment. We can approach our defenses with curiosity and compassion and slowly start to change our part of the equation that limits our capacity for love.

5 Things to Try Before You Give Up on Your Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When you love yourself, you are better equipped to act with integrity in your relationships. You become a person you respect, and you give your relationship its best chance at survival.

Are You Vulnerable To An Emotional Affair? Take This Test To Find Out

Pamela Dussault | Posted 03.18.2014 | Divorce
Pamela Dussault

If you answered "No" to any of the odd-numbered questions (1,3,5,7) you are highly susceptible to having an emotional affair.

How to Be Naked

Kate Bartolotta | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kate Bartolotta

I would gladly trade a lifetime's worth of meaningless orgasms for one long, genuinely naked conversation.

8 Secrets of Undesired Singlehood

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

It is scary to take a chance and go for what we want and compete, but when we do, we most often find it is well worth it to face our fears. We end up with a stronger sense of self, and we increase our chances of creating a relationship with the partner we really desire.

When Should You Give Someone 'The Benefit of the Doubt'?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Trust the early signs of someone being resistant and fearful of intimacy -- of using lateness, a judgmental attitude and emotional distance to push you away.

Intimacy: One Woman's Search for the Relationship Holy Grail

Jennifer Nagy | Posted 11.19.2013 | Women
Jennifer Nagy

A funny thing happened. It was a classic "boy meets girl" scenario, but with a unique twist: the boy in this scenario was moving to London, England in just over two weeks.

The Caregiver's Challenge of Intimacy

Judy Santamaria | Posted 10.22.2013 | Healthy Living
Judy Santamaria

Many couples in the throes of caregiving find great solace in tender gestures, such as kissing, hand-holding, hugging, and looking into each other's eyes. Emotional support can be further extended simply by being polite and sensitive to each other's needs.

Why It's Better To Be The Vulnerable One

Lisa Firestone | Posted 08.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

While it may sometimes feel like we have to outsmart our feelings so as not to get hurt, when it comes to our relationships, we are far better off being vulnerable, making a practice of being the one who loves more.

The Polarizing Effect of Your Inauthentic Self and Why It's Keeping You Lonely

Dana Clark | Posted 07.29.2013 | Healthy Living
Dana Clark

It's not easy to write about intimacy.  Who we let our hearts speak to isn't something that can be instructed with words.  True intimacy is as dynamic, and sometimes elusive as our own self.

Are You Sacrificing a Perfect Relationship for a Perfect Wedding?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 06.16.2013 | Weddings
Lisa Firestone

The "your day" mentality surrounding the occasion may feel good at first, but it's important not to let the occasion become all about you. Planning the event should always come second to enjoying this time with your partner.

7 Reasons You Might Have Fallen Out of Love With Your Partner

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Unless you are able to learn from and heal your fears, you may get stuck in this negative pattern. Love quickly vanishes in the face of this closed, protective behavior.

The Scariest Thought You'll Have Before Marriage

Sheryl Paul | Posted 02.02.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

At the very core of it is the fear of loss, the fear that just when you open your heart to loving this person completely, something tragic will occur that will take him away.

The Vital Spark of Hope Springs: The power of a box office flop

Mark Whitwell | Posted 01.30.2013 | Entertainment
Mark Whitwell

For so many people today, that intimacy -- personal and sexual -- seems elusive. The brave new movie Hope Springs (just out on DVD) gives us a look at a marriage in which intimacy is absent.

The Thought You NEVER Want To Have Before Your Wedding

Sheryl Paul | Posted 01.12.2013 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

I asked if the sadness was past or present and he said "present." Then I asked, "Are there any thoughts that are creating this sadness?" To which he responded, "Just the same one; that I'm in not in love with my bride."

Are You In A Relationship For The Right Reasons?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.09.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

When two people come together because they want to learn together, grow together, heal together, share their time and companionship, and share their love and passion, they have a good chance of creating a lasting, loving relationship.

What We Learned About Love

Sheryl Paul | Posted 12.01.2012 | Weddings
Sheryl Paul

I used to be surprised by the number of clients who would share stories about the ways in which grade school peers (including siblings) would taunt, tease, and torture them, but now it's one of the first questions I ask when a client presents with the fear of intimacy.

Does Technology Make Us Afraid Of Intimacy?

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 11.23.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Craig Malkin

We're all a little anxious about intimacy, aren't we? After all, letting people in is inherently risky. Which means that even though we won't all go to extremes, everyone's at risk for the occasional retreat -- and technology offers plenty of places to hide.