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Fear of Rejection

'I've Got Your Back'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

One of the wonderful things we have to offer each other in our relationships is to have each other's back. Being alone with difficult challenges is very hard. But all too often, this is not how couples relate to each other.

Facing Rejection With Dignity: Lessons From Downton Abbey

Elisabeth Joy LaMotte, LICSW | Posted 04.20.2014 | Entertainment
Elisabeth Joy LaMotte, LICSW

Daisy's dignified goodbye is relevant for anyone struggling to accept the rejection by another.

Leave the F-Word Behind Before Starting the New Year

Natalie MacNeil | Posted 02.15.2014 | Women
Natalie MacNeil

Being around a lot of people we feel forced to spend time with, doing an insane amount of driving trying to prepare for festivities and holiday parties, looking back at what didn't happen this year and trying to finish off anything remaining on this year's to-do list can bring up a lot of funky feelings.

Are You Afraid to Approach Women?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 02.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Feeling uncomfortable around others is one of the most common problems people have to contend with. There is a subcategory of such people who specifi...

Finding Your Authentic Voice Will Set You Free to Express Who You Really Are

Dennis Merritt Jones | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Dennis Merritt Jones

Finding your authentic voice is for naught unless you are willing to use it. When you live with a willingness to allow your authentic voice to be heard something mystical and magical begins to happen: Your heart opens and your soul soars because you are revealing who you were born to be.

4 Powerful Ways to Lovingly Manage Rejection

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Most of the time, when someone rejects someone else, it's because something is going on within them. Whatever the reason they are being rejecting, it's not about you!

How to Talk to That Cute Guy or Girl With Total Confidence

Catherine Chen, Ph.D. | Posted 09.08.2013 | Women
Catherine Chen, Ph.D.

How many times have you passed up the opportunity to talk to a stranger, held back by a fear of rejection?

Rejection: How to Overcome Your Biggest Enemy

Alexa Curtis | Posted 08.28.2013 | Teen
Alexa Curtis

Next time you get a college rejection letter in the mail, or a part in a school play as a background character instead of a lead, or the opposite summer internship from the one that you desired, consider how a different path may benefit you.

Why You're Sabotaging Your Relationships (And How To Stop)

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Do you sometimes find that you sabotage yourself in your work or your relationships? Have you wondered why you would do that? Here are some of the beliefs that might trigger your fears or your resistance to taking loving action in your own behalf.

Why You Keep Attracting Unavailable People

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 07.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I hear it over and over: "Are there any available men?" "Why are all the women I attract unavailable?" There are two issues that often contribute to this situation.

Gay Men In The Wild: Why Are We So Afraid Of Each Other?

Mikah Meyer | Posted 07.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Mikah Meyer

Last Saturday I attended Gay Day at D.C.'s National Zoo. One by one, gaggles of gays would pass by one another, sharing glances and stares but never once speaking to the other herd. For an hour this continued, until I'd had enough inaction and decided to do something about it.

What Not To Do When You're Fighting

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 07.04.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

All relationships have conflict. Conflicts are a part of life and can provide an opportunity for learning and growth -- if they are approached with caring for yourself and the other person.

What's So Scary About Rejection?

Michael Neill | Posted 06.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael Neill

The truth is, "no" doesn't mean we are a bad person or doomed to failure. It's not evidence of a conspiracy against us by the fates or proof that our parents/teachers/siblings were right about us and we never will amount to anything. It just means "not yes." That's it. "Not yes."

4 Ways You Might Be Rejecting Yourself

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Fear of rejection is a big issue for many people -- and it used to be for me, too. I used to be so worried about how others felt about me that I was often anxious in my interactions with them -- always trying to say and do the "right" thing so they would like me or at least think well of me.

The Upside Of Rejection

Maddisen K. Krown | Posted 04.03.2013 | Healthy Living
Maddisen K. Krown

Rejection tends to turn us inward in a negative way -- causing us to feel unworthy, flawed, not good enough, unlovable, frustrated, confused, angry, sad, etc. -- which can get us painfully bogged down in paralyzing self criticism.

Are Powerful People Immune to Rejection?

Posted 01.23.2013 | Healthy Living

By Brett Spiegel People often equate power with money and success. However, according to a new study presented at the annual conference of the ...

Are You In A Relationship For The Right Reasons?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.09.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

When two people come together because they want to learn together, grow together, heal together, share their time and companionship, and share their love and passion, they have a good chance of creating a lasting, loving relationship.

Scarlett O'Hara Has Left The Building, Today I'm Facing My Fears

Kathy Carter Woods | Posted 11.25.2012 | Women
Kathy Carter Woods

I've spent a good part of my adult life seeking attention in sometimes strange and dramatic ways. I nurture my belief in the boogie man and fluster at any bump or creak in the night.

Running From Love

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.08.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

What's likely going on is that you have a fear of losing yourself in the relationship. And the more you like the person, the bigger your fear of engulfment and commitment gets. Why? There are a number of reasons you might fear losing yourself in a relationship.

Overcome Your Fear Of Rejection

MindBodyGreen.com | Kerri Baruch | Posted 09.28.2012 | Healthy Living

Have you ever suffered through that sick feeling of dread in your stomach? Dread that wells up -- a combination of fullness and emptiness -- and lodge...

Fear Lies! And Other Reasons Not To Listen To Your Inner 'Fear Factory'

Jaimal Yogis | Posted 08.21.2012 | Healthy Living
Jaimal Yogis

If you're a naturally go-with-the-flow type person, or just shy, you may have, like me, interpreted an instinctual fear of rejection as a reason you shouldn't talk to that cute girl or approach Joe Cool. You've developed a habit that transforms fears into subtle lies and excuses.

4 Ways To Get Through Rejection

ForbesWoman | Posted 12.06.2011 | Women

Passed over for a job. Disqualified for a bank loan. Turned down for a date. Rejection happens to the best of us on occasion. Yes, even those of us wh...

'If I'm Perfect, No One Will Reject Me' -- Healing Perfectionism

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.07.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Do you believe that being "perfect" gives you control over how people feel about you?" If you do, then you are coming from three big false beliefs that are causing you much unhappiness.