I knew how hard his home life was and how badly he wanted to succeed but how limited he felt. This was the only way of life he knew and I was terrified that it would be the only one he would ever know.
Do you sometimes find that you sabotage yourself in your work or your relationships? Have you wondered why you would do that? Here are some of the beliefs that might trigger your fears or your resistance to taking loving action in your own behalf.
How to answer to fear is different in every case. What is important is that we do not automatically react to fear by either doing the thing that scares us or not doing it. Fear is just a warning light, there to alert us that we need to inquire more deeply into ourselves.
We can choose to let fear be a noose around our neck, holding our breath through life. We can choose to hold onto what we believe we can control, saying no to experiences that may seem risky. We can choose to be satisfied, but less than passionate. Or we can choose to cut the cord.
Life has its ups and downs, and it's not unusual that we should feel a need to be comforted when we are more aware of the downs. Because of past programming, though, too often our ways of comforting ourselves are less than ideal, especially in terms of our health.
When you begin to see that good feeling is part of your essential nature and not something that can ever be truly impacted by how much or how little you have, the game of money becomes considerably easier to play.
In helping them navigate the wild world of dating, I hear their complaints, and there are many. Overwhelmingly, the biggest one from the guys is about who should pay on a date and also how to deal with people they take out who don't thank them or are seemingly ungrateful.
In trying to give governments a more accurate picture of crime and fear, Gallup scientists found one survey question that gets to the heart of the matter: "Do you feel safe walking alone at night in the city or area where you live?"
Throughout the year, a lot of soon-to-be married couples come to me for pre-wedding stress and anxiety. This stress can come very close to breaking up the engagement and open up family issues to the point where people go radio silent on each other.
Disaster, especially terrorism, notwithstanding its horrific initial impact on lives and property, takes its greatest toll, over time, by destabilizing the emotional -- and thus economic -- fabric of a community, state or nation.
We can't even solve what is going on inside ourselves with hate. In order to cultivate more love in the world, we need to cultivate it inside ourselves first... and we can't wait until everyone "out there" changes and behaves better.
The practice is to acknowledge our fear and embrace it rather than deny or run from it. To embrace our fear means we are making a conscious choice not to allow it to define who we are or what we can accomplish.