The perfect gift for your female partner over 50 cannot be found in jewelry or clothing stores. You have likely bought her enough sweaters and jewels to last 50 lifetimes -- and much of the stuff has never come out of safes and drawers. What aging women want most money cannot buy. What we want most is to be left the hell alone -- and to be loved.
The feminist blogosphere has become as much a space for social activism and encouraging change as it has for people to air their opinions and comments without fear of consequence. Though online feminism has been instrumental in bringing important issues to light, others worry that it has become exclusive to a fault.
I used to think that my mom made her stand when I was seven in order to teach me to be a gentleman, a concept laden with the trappings of chivalry, often landing at odds with the equality demanded by feminism. Now I realize that she was actually teaching me that it was my job to show respect, keep my head up and look at the world through the lens of others.
I stared at my computer, at a loss for how to explain to a male non-New Yorker exactly why 'Hi!' doesn't mean 'Hi!' in certain situations to a female New Yorker. It can be a one-sided message from a man to a woman. And the message, loud and clear to the woman on the receiving end is: "I'm sexualizing you."