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What Does an Engaged Butch Call Herself, Bride? Umm..

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.16.2014 | Gay Voices
Tristan Higgins

We had talked about language not long after we got engaged, but hadn't come to any conclusions. I didn't like referring to myself as the "bride" because that has very girly/feminine connotations to it for me.

What Straight People Think Lesbians Look Like (VIDEO)

Jodi Savitz | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Jodi Savitz

2013-11-21-jodisavitzlesbianstereotypesstill.pngHow would unsuspecting passersby answer the question, "What do you think a lesbian looks like?" The on-the-spot question: "Can you name three lesbians in the media or popular-culture?" Some people's answers may surprise you.

My Neverending Coming-Out Story

Jodi Savitz | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Jodi Savitz

My frustration is this: Even after coming out, feminine lesbians walk through life feeling unacknowledged and delegitimized and are often chided for speaking up about their invisibility.

'You're Too Pretty to Be Gay' Is Not a Compliment

Anita Dolce Vita | Posted 11.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Anita Dolce Vita

Most people who spew such nonsense expect me to delight in their backhanded praise, but believing that there is a point at which a woman is too attractive to be gay is based on the assumption that heterosexual women are inherently better-looking, and that's homophobic.

Why I Hate Being Called A 'Lipstick Lesbian'

Jincey Lumpkin | Posted 12.19.2012 | Gay Voices
Jincey Lumpkin

Revealing that I am a lesbian often causes even more trouble, because straight people (men in particular) can't seem to grasp the concept that a lesbian can be girlie-looking.

The Assumption Of Heterosexuality When You Are A Feminine Lesbian

Megan Evans | Posted 06.05.2012 | Gay Voices
Megan Evans

I want femme lesbians to be recognised for who we are, to be acknowledged, accepted, and respected. I do not want to be seen as my partner's sister, and I do not want to be viewed as not truly belonging to the lesbian community.

Height: The Last Lesbian Prejudice?

Sasha Lotrian | Posted 03.31.2012 | Gay Voices
Sasha Lotrian

Once upon a time, I tried not to date anyone shorter then me, not because I think any less of shorter women, but as a femme, I had it stuck in my head that my partner should and would be taller and bigger than me.

Tackling Femme Invisibility

Megan Evans | Posted 03.29.2012 | Gay Voices
Megan Evans

If asked to think of a lesbian, most people's thoughts drift to the stereotypical image of a butch lesbian. It may come as a surprise to some that this is not the only type of lesbian that exists, oh no -- there are some who are "femmes."

When You Realize You're a Lesbian

Sasha Lotrian | Posted 03.19.2012 | Gay Voices
Sasha Lotrian

Does knowing you're gay early in life affect what type of lesbian you're going to end up being? Or is a butch a butch and a femme a femme no matter when the proverbial lightbulb goes off that says "Oh, I'm so gay!"?