Ultimately, the Fifty Shades phenomenon is opening up a very healthy dialogue about female sexuality, not just in the therapeutic community and among BFFs on their coffee breaks, but between women who've read the books and their intimate partners.
The requirement of pleasure, delivered by a gorgeous, skilled, and smitten someone who knows our bodies and desires better than we do.... Is there really any question as to why these books are so popular?
"Yawn," say the gays who whipped their S&M practice into shape 37 years ago and exercise their God-given right to sexual freedom every Friday night (and Saturday and Tuesday and Wednesday and every other day in between). "We got the memo a long time ago."
I am a journalist, not a preacher, and I'm not about to tell everyone to hold off on sex until wedding vows are exchanged. But I've come to believe as a longtime relationship writer that it's best to hold off on sex until it comes with love.
Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey topped the Kindle chart and New York Times bestseller list, dozens of similar-sounding books (ebooks, mostly) have appeared in the Kindle store. Some are intentionally hilarious; some are accidentally hilarious.