'How do you know you've found the one?' young friends ask me. 'Does your boyfriend make you happy?' I ask. 'Does being around him boost your sense of well being? Does he help you be the best you can be?' Funny that I can be a love advisor when more than 30 years ago I almost said no to love.
Stop with the lectures. No more clichés. Don't tell me I'm going to find love when I'm not looking for it, because I refuse to give up. And don't tell me that I have to love myself first -- it's because I love myself that I will not stop looking.
Enter the wife of the twenty-first century with a checklist honed by looking back at her predecessors' lists and deciding what came up short. For the millennium, requisites became imperative, wives were now strident about it.
The guys I know who are happily married have a story about how they met their wives. Most involve a moment when they knew that they needed to spend the rest of their lives with this particular woman in order to be happy.