I honestly think we need to change our mindset and start finding the fun in dating. I see so many AMAZING women who are alone when they should have great men in their lives. I see women who would make perfect partners, but they're so focused on the dream they turn away so many great opportunities.
'How do you know you've found the one?' young friends ask me. 'Does your boyfriend make you happy?' I ask. 'Does being around him boost your sense of well being? Does he help you be the best you can be?' Funny that I can be a love advisor when more than 30 years ago I almost said no to love.
Stop with the lectures. No more clichés. Don't tell me I'm going to find love when I'm not looking for it, because I refuse to give up. And don't tell me that I have to love myself first -- it's because I love myself that I will not stop looking.
Enter the wife of the twenty-first century with a checklist honed by looking back at her predecessors' lists and deciding what came up short. For the millennium, requisites became imperative, wives were now strident about it.
The guys I know who are happily married have a story about how they met their wives. Most involve a moment when they knew that they needed to spend the rest of their lives with this particular woman in order to be happy.