When people say, "Those boys are so lucky!" I'm quick to counter that I am the lucky one, to be entrusted with their care. Maybe that's my sign at the grocery store, a succinct description of a single gay man who adopted older biological siblings: "Lucky-dad parking."
It was the worst when I was home alone with the children. That superstar mom our social worker described in her reports was nowhere to be seen and I found myself wondering how to summon the strength to meet their basic needs. Dress, feed, kiss, play -- these felt like monumental tasks.
Of the 400,000 youth in the foster system nationally, 19,000 are in Los Angeles County. Our county has more foster kids than any other county and more than some states. What better place to create a new model than right here?
The documentary by Julia Ivanova, Family Portrait in Black and White features a Ukrainian foster mother, Olga, and her brood of 27 foster kids. I caught up with Ivanova about her touching film and she shared her views on the film's imperfect heroine.
When I got Andrew, he was addicted to fast food, exhibited signs of ADHD, and possible spectrum disorder. He didn't know how to use a fork or a knife, barely read, and couldn't be left alone. Most importantly, he had been through hell.