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The 5 Biggest Friendship Mistakes Women Make

Shasta Nelson, M.Div. | Posted 02.18.2014 | Women
Shasta Nelson, M.Div.

We all want those really easy, meaningful, comfortable and deep friendships with no drama, right? Most of us are silently suffering from some form of loneliness as we just keep waiting for those relationships to fall in our laps, the way little girls look for little fairies hovering over flowers.

Dr. Irene Levine With Marlo Thomas (WATCH)

Posted 08.13.2013 | MarloThomas

Friendships can be such a rewarding part of our lives -- our friends provide comfort, encouragement, companionship and so much more. Some friendships ...

8 Friendship Fixes

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 03.21.2012 | Women
Dr. Irene S. Levine

It's almost as hard to generalize about friendship problems as it is to figure out how to solve them, but here are eight common situations and ways you can address them.

When Giving Friends Advice, How Honest Should You Be?

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 03.05.2012 | Women
Dr. Irene S. Levine

"My experience is that people don't really want authenticity but think they do --- until it gets hard and difficult scenarios come up."

5 Simple Ways to Improve Your Friendships

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 03.04.2012 | Women
Dr. Irene S. Levine

Here are five simple ways to improve my friendships and yours over the coming year.

How To Handle An Office Breakup

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 02.12.2012 | Women
Dr. Irene S. Levine

Right now, only we know about it, but it's bound to spread around the office. I am not planning to say anything, but she likely will. What do I do?

Mom Worried About the Mean Girls at Montessori Preschool

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 02.08.2012 | Parents
Dr. Irene S. Levine

This year, one of my daughter's friends told her she doesn't have straight hair and shouldn't play with them. Then she started ignoring my daughter. I know that my child feels hurt and I'm concerned about her. Signed, Worried Mom

How Would You React if Your Friend Did THIS?

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 01.29.2012 | Women
Dr. Irene S. Levine

Amanda and Heather took to each other very quickly. So quickly that it became the three of us whenever something social was happening. I started to feel like the third wheel.

College Friendships 101: Getting Through the First Semester

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 01.15.2012 | College
Dr. Irene S. Levine

Moving from a small school where you knew everyone for many years to a large, anonymous university campus with thousands of students is a big change that requires a period of adjustment. But many other freshmen are likely to be in the same boat as you.

New Mom Having a Hard Time Making New Friends

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 01.11.2012 | Parents
Dr. Irene S. Levine

When we're lonely, it's natural to think about reaching back into the past to resurrect relationships with old school chums -- but be cautious. You may realize that you have even less in common with these friends -- except for your shared history.

4 Consequences to Labeling a Friend 'Toxic'

Shasta Nelson, M.Div. | Posted 11.27.2011 | Women
Shasta Nelson, M.Div.

Do a google search with two words that by definition shouldn't be in the same sentence, "avoid" and "friend," and you'll get a list of 409,000,000 articles helping you figure out which friends to drop.

Women's Friendship Month: 25 Ways to Be a 'Keeper'

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 11.19.2011 | Women
Dr. Irene S. Levine

More than a decade ago, Kappa Delta Sorority created Friendship Day, and then turned it into a month-long celebration of friendship called, National W...

Why All People Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise

Daylle Deanna Schwartz | Posted 11.02.2011 | Women
Daylle Deanna Schwartz

The expression simply means take your time to get to know someone well -- male or female -- so they can earn your trust instead of giving it away. It's about protecting yourself from potential disappointment.

Undermined at Work by a "Friend"

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 10.11.2011 | Women
Dr. Irene S. Levine

Friendships carry risks when they unravel and this is particularly true in the workplace. Yet, we spend so much of our lives at work that it's natural we would develop close friendships there.

An Inconvenient Truth: She's Made You a Second-Tier Friend

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 09.26.2011 | Women
Dr. Irene S. Levine

QUESTION Dear Irene, I've been friends with a woman for about four years now. As time progressed, we became closer, or so I thought. We both moved h...

Four Different Friendships, Four Similar Themes

Shasta Nelson, M.Div. | Posted 09.14.2011 | Women
Shasta Nelson, M.Div.

We often hold up childhood friends as the ideal friendship. Rather, it's frequently the people we meet along the way that can foster the bonds with us that feel most substantial.

3 Tips to Socializing this Summer

Shasta Nelson, M.Div. | Posted 08.30.2011 | Women
Shasta Nelson, M.Div.

Summer brings up a lot of idealized pictures: family vacations, backyard barbeques with neighbors, street festivals with friends. In that gap between our hopes and our reality often comes the surprising feeling of loneliness.

How To Cope With The Loss Of A Friendship

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Irene S. Levine

Continuing to ruminate about the lost friendship will only make you more depressed rather than bringing about closure. Instead, try to reframe your thinking to allow for the possibility that it had more to do with her than with you.

Having Trouble Making New Friends Stick? 11 Possible Causes

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Irene S. Levine

Here are some possible reasons that someone might have difficulty developing close, reciprocal relationships with friends.

There's one in every bunch

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Irene S. Levine

QUESTION Hi Irene, I was Googling 'toxic friends' and came across your blog. I am friends with a pretty great group of women, with the exception of ...

Friendship Calculus: The Problem of Three

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Irene S. Levine

QUESTION Hi Irene: Three friends never seem to work. One person always gets excluded in one way or another. I just moved to a new town where my husb...

Legacy Friends: Keeping old friendships alive

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Irene S. Levine

QUESTION Hi Irene, My best friend from college (who later was my maid of honor) and I had a fall out three years ago. After 13 years of friendship, ...

Friendship: Can you keep a secret? Should you?

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Irene S. Levine

QUESTION Hi Irene, I've been burdened with the knowledge that the husband of one of my closest friends was unfaithful to her. They have two very you...

The Geography Of Friendship

Rachel Bertsche | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Rachel Bertsche

A dinner guest had a fabulous theory for testing out whether a city is generally friendly or not: "You can tell by whether or not other girls talk to you while you wait in line for the restroom." I love this. It's a brilliant barometer.

Losing friends when you get divorced

Dr. Irene S. Levine | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Irene S. Levine

QUESTION Hi Irene, Three and a half years ago I left my husband. We divorced amicably and have a collaborative and supportive co-parenting relatio...