Learning how to be male in a hyper-gendered world is confusing, to say the least. Some of the basic life skills that boys learn -- bathroom etiquette, how to measure pants sizes, barbershop terminology -- are the subject of my Google searches.
I took my seventh shot of testosterone just a few days ago, and I still don't have a way to reconcile my utter disgust with misogyny and personal commitment to feminism with my male identity. I find it hard to believe that feminism and masculinity are mutually exclusive.
Some transgender youth are being called out by members of the trans* community for being "trans-trenders," which is taken to refer to women who take steps to begin to transition to male simply because they do not fit a stereotypical mold of womanhood.