As a transgender woman I get asked by gays and lesbians quite frequently how the T fits in the LGBT, and why transgender rights should be part of the larger gay agenda. Rather than shrug off the question, I take the time to actually answer.
Don't discuss "your gays" like nail polish or Tamagotchis. Don't "collect" gay friends, though they may add mounds of platonic goodness to that drab life of yours. Gay friends are not your personal magical, well-dressed accessories.
We can't celebrate our recent victories without acknowledging the people who helped us get here even though they never had a dog in the fight. The political transformation over this last decade is also thanks to the millions of straight folks who walked side-by-side with us.