I am a huge evangelist when it comes to being happy, so it is hard for me to watch close friends and others struggle with the issue of religion and gay dating. When your religious beliefs say that you are sinning simply because of whom you love, it can be a crushing blow to your self-esteem.
Was I the last gay man on Earth who did not want to hook up? I was parched for conversation with other gay men. Sure, I have a sexual appetite, but I do draw a line sometime. And then, like a ray of sunshine, a friend suggested that I look into Hornet.
Yes, threesome relationships have started to become a mainstream trend in the gay culture. However, it seems that it is only a matter of time after the third person hops into the bed that someone inevitably falls out.
A common joke among lesbians is, "What do lesbians bring to a second date?" The answer: "A U-Haul." Meanwhile, single gay men are often considered promiscuous if they're not attached. Are the differences between lesbians and gay men in the dating world fact or fiction?
HIV disclosure laws vary from state to state, with Iowa having arguably the strictest. But let's face it: You're going to have sex again, no matter what lawmakers say. You're going to have to do an honest examination of your personal ethics as an HIV-positive individual.
I recently deleted my Grindr and Adam4Adam profiles. Ever since sobering up, I've had little to no sex drive, but my lack of sex drive is really a blessing in disguise. I'm no longer wasting hours (and I mean hours) of my life seeking the next big fling.
We just don't understand why people are great at going to the gym and changing their diets, but when it comes to their love lives, they just sit like a lame duck Congress and wait for something to happen. Why are so many of you unwilling to make the first move?
The dearth of proud, openly positive gay people online in most cities is a lost opportunity for all of us. More open disclosure can lead toward better, more informed, and safer sex. It would also go far toward removing some of the shame we have toward the disease.
Standards aren't the problem. Standards are great. When you have standards, it allows you to set goals in your life and hold yourself accountable. The problem is that people have the wrong standards -- ones they don't require of themselves.