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Gay Men of Color

My Gay Brother's Keeper

Ben Francisco Maulbeck | Posted 04.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Ben Francisco Maulbeck

We need to build systems that support and reinforce these strengths so that more gay, bi, and trans men of color can succeed in a world that too often rejects them.

I Did It: Lunch With a Total Stranger

Liz Margolies, L.C.S.W. | Posted 04.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Liz Margolies, L.C.S.W.

When a white, atheist psychotherapist has lunch with the founder of Depressed Black Gay Men (DBGM), they each get food for thought.

Real Talk With Rob Smith: Tired of 'Black vs. Gay' (VIDEO)

Rob Smith | Posted 02.21.2014 | Gay Voices
Rob Smith

This is my response to the tired "black vs. gay" meme that's going on right now.

On Eric Rofes and Pro-Sex HIV Prevention

Charles Stephens | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Charles Stephens

Nearly a decade ago, when I first started to get involved politically and the discussions were just taking shape that would give form and direction t...

Giving You Permission to Be...

Craig Stewart | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Craig Stewart

However many people we may come out to, there's still a journey of self-affirmation that has to take place; otherwise we remain in constant search of self-acceptance. It took years before I reached a comfort level in my skin. Coming to terms with one's sexuality is a lifelong journey.

An Excerpt From Words Never Spoken, My Memoir

Craig Stewart | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Craig Stewart

I thought that all gay men were interested in becoming women and wearing women's clothes and were flamboyant and destined for hell. I wasn't. So from puberty through my college years, I concealed my feelings and innermost thoughts.

The Making of 'How to Make the ACA T'Werk for You'

Matthew Rose | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Matthew Rose

We have spent countless days wrestling with the same question that many other professionals in the health care field have wrestled with: How do we engage black gay men, our community, around the Affordable Care Act? The end result was "How to Make the ACA T'Werk for You."

The Risk of Loneliness

Charles Stephens | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Charles Stephens

Last week I tweeted, "Thinking about loneliness as a driver for HIV infection among black gay men." I think that the issue of loneliness is perhaps critical to how we think about HIV prevention and treatment issues.

New Documentary Explores Relationships Between Black Gay Men and Their Fathers

Yolo Akili | Posted 11.10.2013 | Black Voices
Yolo Akili

Created by Chase Simmons, Dear Dad: Letters From Same-Gender-Loving Sons shares the stories of eight black same-gender-loving men writing open letters to their fathers. I reached out to Simmons to learn more.

Don Lemon Reminds Me of Sad Similarity Between Black, Gay Communities

Alvin McEwen | Posted 09.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Alvin McEwen

Don Lemon dehumanized the African-American community by reducing it to stereotypes, much like the religious right does to the LGBT community. Certainly this is not what Lemon was trying to do, but it was something that he maybe should have realized, given that he is a black gay man.

Black Gay Men Positively Out: Many Men, Many Closets (Part 2)

Craig Washington | Posted 08.14.2013 | Gay Voices
Craig Washington

How do we reconcile the explicit messages we present to black gay men countering homophobia and HIV stigma with the messages we imply through our HIV closets? Where is the integrity in challenging gay men to relinquish their imbedded shame as we demonstrate and justify our own?

Black Gay Men Positively Out: Many Men, Many Closets (Part 1)

Craig Washington | Posted 08.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Craig Washington

Stigma cannot be dislodged unless more HIV-positive people come out of our viral closets and break down the barricades of fear and silence. It is no secret that black gay men bear the highest HIV burden. Our condition demands that we unleash the radical.

On Blackness and Queerness

Charles Stephens | Posted 08.10.2013 | Gay Voices
Charles Stephens

Identifying as queer felt like the best way to bring together my identities as someone who is black, male but not conventionally masculine, desiring of other men but not exclusively, and working-class, with an inclination toward the sexually transgressive.

Strengthening My Filipino Pride Through My Gay Pride

JR Tungol | Posted 05.05.2013 | Gay Voices
JR Tungol

When I hit puberty, my homosexuality was something I could not let slip. I did not want to disappoint my traditional Filipino parents, and in that vein, I grew angry toward them and thought that they would never understand my feelings and what I was going through.

The Down-Low Stigma Is Still Prevalent In Urban Gay Media

Deron Dalton | Posted 04.22.2013 | Gay Voices
Deron Dalton

It's as though "down low" were synonymous with "gay and black." Not only is being on the down low problematic, but portraying all gay black men as down-low brothers stigmatizes the gay black community.

Coming Out: Is It All About You?

Wade Davis, Jr. | Posted 12.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Wade Davis, Jr.

Though I can remember almost everything about that day, from my mother's facial expression to her subtle physical responses, only recently have I tried to understand her reactions and consider her feelings throughout my coming-out process.

Coming Out In Two Acts: One Man's Story Of Family, Love And Living Authentically

Michael J. Brewer | Posted 12.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Michael J. Brewer

It all started with an awkward conversation with my dad when I was 16. On what I thought was a day like any other, we were passing our neighborhood Walmart when my father began the line of questioning I'd been dreading since before I was positive I knew the answers.

Looking Beyond HIV When It Comes To Gay Men Of Color

Aundaray Guess | Posted 12.05.2012 | Gay Voices
Aundaray Guess

Instead of throwing a condom in a young gay black man's hand, first look at what his world looks like. What are his life circumstances? What societal barriers prevent him from getting the message on HIV? Does he feel that he has any worth?

For Colored Boys: The End Of An Invisible Life

Clay Cane | Posted 10.08.2012 | Gay Voices
Clay Cane

The voices in For Colored Boys represent empowerment, which isn't always beautiful and sometimes laced with grit. We colored boys are slapping flesh onto a monolithic image of black LGBT people.

'Barbershop Conversations,' Black Masculinity And Sexuality

Darnell L. Moore | Posted 09.26.2012 | Gay Voices
Darnell L. Moore

To say that a barbershop, street, or neighborhood is safe for all LGBTQ people is to forget that not all LGBTQ people share the same privileges that we do. Would a feminine-performing brother be safe in your barbershop? Would a masculine-performing sister feel safe in mine?

It Can Be Scary Coming Out As Black and Gay

Zach Stafford | Posted 03.07.2013 | Gay Voices
Zach Stafford

It is scary coming out as gay when life has already given you so much to worry about, so much to think about, and so much to struggle with.

The Beautiful Gay Man Of Color

Justin Huang | Posted 06.05.2012 | Gay Voices
Justin Huang

"You're ugly." Those words have been said directly to me many times in my life, but there are four instances that I remember as clearly as if they were tattooed onto my face.

Tongues Untied: Shade Culture -- Throwing Shade, Reflecting Light

Darnell L. Moore | Posted 05.29.2013 | Gay Voices
Darnell L. Moore

It can be quite easy for us to direct the negative energy that is projected at us within a largely homophobic and transphobic, racist society toward one another. It seems that "throwing shade" is the only way some of us know how to relate.