If you make an informed decision to practice barebacking, then so be it. I can't say I will never do the same. However, short-term pleasure, a sense of belonging, and the excitement of abandoning homonormative sociosexual practices cannot be divorced from either a willful rejection of long-term health or a romanticized concept of what HIV infection leads to.
A new reality show about straight men who have sex with other men for money, titled Broke Straight Boys, is coming to television later this year. Most people don't believe these men are straight at all but gay or bisexual. But the fact is that many men -- gay, straight and bisexual -- can be sexual with the same sex or the opposite sex if money is involved.
When performing black femininity at the request of white or non-black spaces, we are continuing the violence against black women. Without reconciling the privilege of masculinity, we are continuing that violence. Letting our white gay counterparts parade black femininity only reproduces the problem.