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7 Things I Wish I Knew Before Coming Out as Gay

John Paul Brammer | Posted 09.16.2014 | Gay Voices
John Paul Brammer

Coming out was the best thing I've ever done for myself. That being said, coming out came with its fair share of struggles that I felt I had to navigate alone. To all the gay men who have just come out or are in the process of coming out, I hope this list helps make your experience a little easier.

Do Gay Men Really Have Terrible Taste in Music?

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 09.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

It's not just the implied homophobia of snap judgments about the music taste of gay men that troubles me. It's also the blatant disregard of all the evidence to the contrary. Gay men are judged collectively and negatively on enough things. Why must their taste in music be yet another one of them?

Bareback Culture, HIV, and Our Gay Future

J Nelson Aviance | Posted 09.04.2014 | Gay Voices
J Nelson Aviance

If you make an informed decision to practice barebacking, then so be it. I can't say I will never do the same. However, short-term pleasure, a sense of belonging, and the excitement of abandoning homonormative sociosexual practices cannot be divorced from either a willful rejection of long-term health or a romanticized concept of what HIV infection leads to.

This Is What A Bear Looks Like

The Huffington Post | Noah Michelson | Posted 08.27.2014 | Gay Voices

Though queer people are gaining more and more visibility in mainstream media and society, that doesn't mean that the images we're presented with are a...

Sex, Intimacy, and Being Gay

J Nelson Aviance | Posted 08.21.2014 | Gay Voices
J Nelson Aviance

Sex seems central to intimate and romantic relationships. If it is a means of intimate communication, and communication is the secret to a lasting and healthy relationship, why don't we gay men talk about it that way more often?

The Amazing Way This Woman Reacted When Her Husband Came Out As Gay

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices

Evelyn Bonilla joined HuffPost Live to share the very personal story of how she reacted when her ex-husband, Henry Veguilla, came out as gay. Boni...

LOOK: Gay Artist's New Series Aims To 'Challenge Conventions Around Masculinity'

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices

Ohio-based artist Paul Richmond is hoping to "investigate the construction of identity" and masculinity with his incredible new series, which is set t...

Here's What Happens When Gay Men Read '50 Shades Of Grey' (NSFW)

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 08.14.2014 | Gay Voices

Need an afternoon pick-me-up? This should do the trick. A group of gay men got together and explored the VERY heterosexual world of "50 Shades Of G...

The 5 Ways Gay Married Men Are Turning Back The Wedding Clock

David Toussaint | Posted 08.08.2014 | Gay Voices
David Toussaint

Now we're turning full gay circle with gay men spreading the notion that marriage equality somehow means gay men automatically want marriage and probably children. If we don't have a husband we are not only unfortunate, but we must find one before we get too old.

Gay for Pay: Straight Men Having Gay Sex for Money

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 07.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

A new reality show about straight men who have sex with other men for money, titled Broke Straight Boys, is coming to television later this year. Most people don't believe these men are straight at all but gay or bisexual. But the fact is that many men -- gay, straight and bisexual -- can be sexual with the same sex or the opposite sex if money is involved.

8 Things Straight People Get Wrong About Gay Men

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 08.07.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

Just because someone's heart is in the right place, doesn't mean his or her foot will be, too. Here are eight common straights-on-gays misconceptions that can lead to inserting it directly into one's mouth, which must be as awkward and uncomfortable for them as the gaffes are for us.

The Road to Equality in Media... So Far

J Nelson Aviance | Posted 07.22.2014 | Gay Voices
J Nelson Aviance

The world has changed a lot in the past few decades, but gay men still face violence and abuse. Anyone cognizant of current events recognizes that we haven't come far enough in trans inclusiveness, and lesbians and bisexual people still get left out in the cold too often.

I Am NOT Cisgendered

J Nelson Aviance | Posted 09.17.2014 | Gay Voices
J Nelson Aviance

I am NOT "cisgendered." I reject that label. Why? From what I've read, "cisgendered" is a label that began in academic discourse as a way of describing people who weren't trans. But the meaning of it was akin to what we might call "normatively gendered."

What If Gay Men Forgave One Another?

Josh Hersh | Posted 09.16.2014 | Gay Voices
Josh Hersh

Maybe forgiveness is a muscle we've allowed to get flabby and weak. Maybe we've been holding out for an apology from our perpetrator that may never arrive. The truth is that when we refuse to forgive others, we only imprison ourselves.

Dear Black Gay Men, Don't Get Comfortable

Jay Dodd | Posted 09.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Jay Dodd

When performing black femininity at the request of white or non-black spaces, we are continuing the violence against black women. Without reconciling the privilege of masculinity, we are continuing that violence. Letting our white gay counterparts parade black femininity only reproduces the problem.

Perry Brass: The Manly Pursuit of Desire: Life Is A Show, Old Chum!

Perry Brass | Posted 09.07.2014 | Arts
Perry Brass

I went to see Alan Cumming in Cabaret at the Roundabout Theater Company's venture at Studio 54 last night. Cumming was spectacular--as ever.

Hobby Lobby Is Already about Us: LGBT Hetero-Sex

Amy Andre | Posted 09.07.2014 | Gay Voices
Amy Andre

When was the last time you asked your lesbian BFF what kind of birth control she uses? Your gay neighbor if any of his female lovers are on the pill? Your bisexual bowling league buddies... well, anything p-in-v related whatsoever?

You Belong In The Gay Community

Josh Hersh | Posted 09.06.2014 | Gay Voices
Josh Hersh

I'm here to tell every gay man reading this: You belong in the gay community. Just as you are. The thing is, if you don't believe you belong (or even want to belong) in the gay community, you never will.

What Gay Men Are Really Thinking In The Locker Room

Posted 06.29.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com Michael Sam made headline news when he shared a celebratory kiss with his boyfriend after hearing that he was joi...

The Manly Pursuit of Desire: Charles James at His Splendid Met Museum Show: Sick!

Perry Brass | Posted 08.25.2014 | Arts
Perry Brass

One word immediately came to my mind looking at the head-turning displays of haute couture by the legendary Charles James at the Metropolitan Museum on a recent gorgeous summer Sunday in June.

WATCH: Jimmy Lyons, Founder Of advisorCONNECT, Shares What Pride Means To Him

Posted 06.24.2014 | Gay Voices

In honor of June being LGBT Pride Month, we asked some of our favorite people to tell us what pride means to them. In the video above, Jimmy Lyons,...

A Gayish List of My Favorite Gay (Male) Romance Novels

J Nelson Aviance | Posted 08.24.2014 | Gay Voices
J Nelson Aviance

In honor of Pride month, I thought I'd write a post on my favorite fiction focused on gay characters. I primarily listen to and read urban fantasy/paranormal romance, though I sometimes read regular gay romance.

This Community Is Ours -- Let's Own It!

Josh Hersh | Posted 08.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Josh Hersh

At what moment did gay men throw up their hands and say, "This isn't my community anymore! I'm stepping away. Moving away. I don't belong here anymore"? I ask because I hear that often.

For Pride Month, Daring To Be 'Wild And Precious' In A New One-Man Show

John-Manuel Andriote | Posted 08.13.2014 | Gay Voices
John-Manuel Andriote

Although he's a white gay man, Cadwell is clear that struggling with being "different" isn't unique to gay men or other sexual minorities.

Going From Boys to Men With Our Fathers

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 08.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

As Father's Day approaches, I think about my father. As boys, our first relationship with a man is with our fathers. This is especially important for gay males, since our adult love relationships will be with other men.