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Gay Monogamy

My First Experiment in Non-Monogamy

Kevin Thornton | Posted 12.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Kevin Thornton

My last relationship was a gay, polyamorous, open, interracial threesome. (I know, very 2013.) In a time when gay couples are becoming remarkably mainstream, we were "destroying the sanctity of gay marriage," I would often joke. Some didn't find it funny.

Monogam-Ish Relationships, From Dan Savage (VIDEO)

Posted 05.05.2014 | MarloThomas

Dan Savage, Host of Savage Lovecast, has stood behind a model of "monogam-ish" relationships for years, and he explained the meaning behind this term ...

Gay Men Should Do Whatever They Want in Their Relationships

Mark Brennan Rosenberg | Posted 02.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Mark Brennan Rosenberg

There has been a lot of controversy over a blog post I wrote on The Huffington Post two weeks ago entitled "Are Gay Men Scared of Monogamy?" Given the response, you'd think I'd written a post called "The Gay Apocalypse Is Coming, and If You Don't Pair Off, You're Going to Die!"

Why I Never Want To Be Just Like Straight People (And Why You Shouldn't Either)

Noah Michelson | Posted 02.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Noah Michelson

What's got me so despondent (and dramatic)? A couple of recent blog posts that appeared on HuffPost Gay Voices, lamenting, worrying about or lashing out at queers (like me) who don't want to live a heteronormative life.

Are Gay Men Scared of Monogamy?

Mark Brennan Rosenberg | Posted 02.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Mark Brennan Rosenberg

It seems to me that if we want our relationships and marriages to be accepted by our straight counterparts, then maybe it's time to keep a lid on what exactly it is that we do behind closed doors. Maybe it's just no one's business.

We're Here, We're Queer, We're Monogamish

Matthew Lewis | Posted 08.06.2013 | Gay Voices
Matthew Lewis

There's nothing like my first-date dinner companion telling me he hopes I can someday play with him and his partner together. I don't know what happened to first-date etiquette, but this information might have been useful before wooing me into thinking you're a man I could settle for.

How Do Gays Crack the Monogamy Code?

Tyler Curry | Posted 08.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Tyler Curry

Is it possible for two gay men to be in a long-term relationship and remain monogamous? Of course it is, but for the frustrated but hopeful "monogay," it often seems nearly impossible to find a homo couple who have surpassed the five-year mark without opening up their relationship.

'Monogamish': Two Is Company, But Is Three Really A Crowd?

Zach Stafford | Posted 04.29.2013 | Gay Voices
Zach Stafford

By expanding our understanding of how a couple can operate together, and maybe throwing away that old saying, "two's company, but three's a crowd," maybe we can actually make ourselves happier and have longer, healthier relationships, even if they are "monogamish."

Monogamy Is Dead! Long Live Monogamy!

Carl Sandler | Posted 09.26.2012 | Gay Voices
Carl Sandler

There are real benefits to monogamy, but only when both individuals make the choice out of their own needs, not out of ideas. Discuss whether the choice for monogamy can help you and your partner build a more stable and healthy life together.

The Gay Male Couple's Guide To Nonmonogamy

Daniel Vaillancourt | Posted 03.21.2012 | Gay Voices
Daniel Vaillancourt

Despite the perils it presents, nonmonogamy can be a source of great satisfaction. But when it comes to opening up a relationship, two men are best served by clear communication and mutually agreed-upon boundaries.

Seduced by a Love Story

Robert Levithan | Posted 01.28.2012 | Gay Voices
Robert Levithan

A couple of weeks ago, a charming man on Facebook suggested that we meet for a drink, and I accepted. That drink turned into an instant committed relationship. Why am I surprised that now we are discussing what went awry?