Gay dads don't get many advantages in the parenting landscape these days, but for whatever reason, due to a patriarchal Hollywood complex or just mere coincidence, there is a full treasure trove of great, father-affirming family material available.
What is the result of all of broad, sweeping generalities about homosexuality in our public discourse? I believe that all people will be damaged by this kind of talk. The human race, far and wide, will not be able to think in complex ways.
It seems that you, Elton John, and George Michael can't skip a day without such pithy nonsense running from your mouths. However, in this particular case, you were talking about me, my parter, our kids, and all the other LGBT families out there.
Frankly, I wanted less kitsch and more class. During a time when same-sex marriage is being subjected to popular referenda in Maryland, North Carolina, Washington, and Minnesota, The New Normal presents a new danger.
My marriage -- much like those of countless heterosexuals -- didn't last. That divorce rendered me single, gay and father to a hilarious, precocious little boy. So, what makes me different from all other divorcées?
I hobbled to my computer and spent an hour reading articles with titles like "Top 10 Ways to Be a Good Dad," to see what I might be missing. Turns out these articles were not so much about being a good dad as they were about being a good parent. Huh.
I'm a gay, divorced, single parent, the nightmare of the religious right. And yet here I am, about to step up and share my perspective on these fathers' letters to their sons. I would like to address the two fathers and their notes, and then address my sons with a note of my own.
The ticking of the biological clock is no joke, y'all. About eight months ago I wrote a scathing piece about the pressure to have children and my general distaste for all things gestational. My, my, how the world does change.
I concluded a few years ago that the Miller-Jenkins custody-kidnapping case's greatest significance as a social turning point was in revealing the new willingness of many in organized religious conservatism, "even the lawyers among them, to applaud and defend the defiance of court orders."
I was both intrigued and annoyed by a New York Times piece this morning about the supposed pressure gay men are feeling to have children. The premise starts off well, but the piece seems to assume that having children is the be all and end all for everyone, gay and straight.
As the 20th anniversary of what my family calls "Adoption Day" came and went this spring, I have been thinking about the promising changes in society's attitudes toward families like ours and relationships like my moms'. The promise of the future, however, is not without some peril.
But many critics have missed one of Regnerus' most unexpected findings, one that may illuminate his study's shortcomings. Specifically, and feeding into pretty much all the other problems, the study diagnoses children of gay parents as having a huge problem with poverty.
I've done my fair share of welcoming strangers into my home, not knowing how they will react when they see our kiss-the-bride wedding portrait hanging on the wall. For all my nervousness, though, none of these encounters had broken badly. And then we met Dick.