Parents should be judged on their parenting, not on their sexuality. If I were a kid living in care, I'd much rather have two dads who want me, love me and work two and half years to prove to some strangers that they can care for me than a mother and a father whose lives I'm simply a part of.
When same-sex couples are given the opportunity to raise a family, we see it as a privilege. We are fighting to make the formation of families with all legal protections a right, not a privilege. It's time we reclaim the label "pro-family," because we have the protection of all families in mind.
In the four years since Prop 8, I have shown all the signs of a sort of election-induced "PTSD." I don't want to hear the rhetoric. I don't want to see the debates. I don't want to follow the polls. I don't even want to watch The Daily Show. It's that bad.
Accompanying a recent Huffington Post article I wrote was a photo of my family, taken by Sara + Ryan Photography. That photo resulted in so many queries about the duo's work, which is focused on LGBT families, that I thought it would be fun to learn more about Sara and Ryan.
In June my partner Todd and I, along with our two children, were featured in the Father's Day catalog for JCPenney. The reaction has been overwhelmingly positive, but there was one thing that really got under my skin: the negative comments we read and heard from other gay people.
In the playground of that bond shared only with a grandparent, the kids we imagine we know find ways of revealing aspects of themselves they can't with us, in the safety of a gaze we're not yet wise enough to cast.
Gay dads don't get many advantages in the parenting landscape these days, but for whatever reason, due to a patriarchal Hollywood complex or just mere coincidence, there is a full treasure trove of great, father-affirming family material available.
What is the result of all of broad, sweeping generalities about homosexuality in our public discourse? I believe that all people will be damaged by this kind of talk. The human race, far and wide, will not be able to think in complex ways.
It seems that you, Elton John, and George Michael can't skip a day without such pithy nonsense running from your mouths. However, in this particular case, you were talking about me, my parter, our kids, and all the other LGBT families out there.
Frankly, I wanted less kitsch and more class. During a time when same-sex marriage is being subjected to popular referenda in Maryland, North Carolina, Washington, and Minnesota, The New Normal presents a new danger.
My marriage -- much like those of countless heterosexuals -- didn't last. That divorce rendered me single, gay and father to a hilarious, precocious little boy. So, what makes me different from all other divorcées?
I hobbled to my computer and spent an hour reading articles with titles like "Top 10 Ways to Be a Good Dad," to see what I might be missing. Turns out these articles were not so much about being a good dad as they were about being a good parent. Huh.
I'm a gay, divorced, single parent, the nightmare of the religious right. And yet here I am, about to step up and share my perspective on these fathers' letters to their sons. I would like to address the two fathers and their notes, and then address my sons with a note of my own.
The ticking of the biological clock is no joke, y'all. About eight months ago I wrote a scathing piece about the pressure to have children and my general distaste for all things gestational. My, my, how the world does change.
I concluded a few years ago that the Miller-Jenkins custody-kidnapping case's greatest significance as a social turning point was in revealing the new willingness of many in organized religious conservatism, "even the lawyers among them, to applaud and defend the defiance of court orders."
I was both intrigued and annoyed by a New York Times piece this morning about the supposed pressure gay men are feeling to have children. The premise starts off well, but the piece seems to assume that having children is the be all and end all for everyone, gay and straight.