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A Gay Dad's Advice On Successful Parenting

Posted 07.21.2013 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons For YourTango.com It's been a few weeks since the defeat of DOMA and since Prop 8 became history. The day those rulings came down,...

Gay Parents, Claim the Right to Be Imperfect

Dawn Dais | Posted 09.17.2013 | Parents
Dawn Dais

There are so many people and organizations in the world who regularly proclaim LGBT families to be less than. The natural reaction to that hatred is our own proclamations that we are PERFECT! Our kids are PERFECT! Our family's PERFECTION puts your straight mediocrity to shame!

After the DOMA Decision, We Face an Impossible Choice

Aly Windsor | Posted 09.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Aly Windsor

Do we stay in North Carolina and raise our children around extended family in a state that denies our family the rights and protections of marriage, or do we leave extended family, friends, jobs, and neighbors behind to raise them in a state that values and protects us just like any other family?

An All-American Dad... Almost

Dan Bucatinsky | Posted 09.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Dan Bucatinsky

The kids want to fish. Damn. I'm going to have to dig for worms. I hate worms. They're icky. But the dad I'm aspiring to be doesn't say words like "icky." Why can't I be more like those other kinds of dads? Wait. Is this just internalized homophobia? Probably. So what am I saying?

When 'Mama' Is Her First Word

Doug Rigg | Posted 09.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Doug Rigg

After the "M" bomb went off, a barrage of questions entered my already crowded brain, questions I'm sure many gay dads have pondered: How are we going to explain our unique family to our daughter? How do we explain the concept of having a biological mother who is not actually her parent?

Unlikely Hero

Mark Hoelterhoff | Posted 09.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark Hoelterhoff

As a parent, every part of you, every fiber of your being, is designed to protect your children, keep them from pain, shield them from hurt, and never, ever inflict suffering on their precious hearts. It is that protective spirit that kept me in the closet for so long.

Deciphering Hate Speech: How Coded Words Like 'Family' Breed Contempt

Dr. Joe Wenke | Posted 09.01.2013 | Gay Voices
Dr. Joe Wenke

Usually hate speech is pretty direct. A good example is the Web address for the Westboro Baptist Church. But sometimes hate speech isn't direct at all. It may even be a little bit involved. Consider, for example, how anti-LGBTQ organizations use the word "family."

On SCOTUS Watch, With Children

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 08.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

I consider following up with the words Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. famously used, "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice." But I suspect K-Bird's too young to understand that. Then again, maybe he isn't.

Lesbian Mom in Colorado Could Be Among First to Receive Green Card When DOMA Is Struck Down by Supreme Court (VIDEO)

Lavi Soloway | Posted 08.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Lavi Soloway

For Cathy and Catriona and their three children, everything is at stake. If the Supreme Court strikes down DOMA, Cathy could immediately receive approval of her green card application. If the law is upheld, she will be forced to move thousands of miles away from her spouse and children.

Good Enough to Parent but Not to Marry

Cynthia Godsoe | Posted 08.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Cynthia Godsoe

Many opponents of same-sex marriage argue that children are harmed by being raised by lesbians or gay men. Not only do the data clearly refute this claim, but if those making the argument genuinely believed it, why would they endorse adoption by these parents they consider harmful?

A Responsibility to Those Who Come After

Emily Hecht-McGowan | Posted 08.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Emily Hecht-McGowan

Just as those who came before our daughter Sadie fought to make the world a better place for her, our pledge to Sadie is that we will teach her, through our words and our deeds, that she too has a responsibility to those who come after her.

The Arsenal Is Empty

Jason Howe | Posted 08.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Jason Howe

Any Supreme Court victory for backers of Prop 8 and DOMA will be a Pyrrhic one. One by one, their arguments have been exposed as falsehoods and have no power as American society moves toward full acceptance of LGBT rights. Their arsenal is empty.

Russia To Ban Gay Couples From Adopting

AP | Posted 08.18.2013 | Gay Voices

MOSCOW — Russia is on its way to sharply limiting the adoption of children by people from countries that allow same-sex marriage. Under a measu...

Father's Day 2013: LGBT Readers Celebrate Their Father And Father Figures

The Huffington Post | Christopher Rudolph | Posted 06.16.2013 | Gay Voices

Fathers can be a hard bunch to read. Some of them stoic, who at times may be misunderstanding of your gay, bisexual or transgender lifestyle, but they...

My Two Dads: How 8 Gay Families Are Celebrating Father's Day

Freedom To Marry | Adam Polaski | Posted 06.16.2013 | Gay Voices

This Sunday, June 16, families across the country will pull out the barbecues, take in the summer sun, and come together to celebrate their fathers, t...

What I Know About Fatherhood After Coming Out

Seth Taylor | Posted 08.14.2013 | Parents
Seth Taylor

When kids are loved, they don't forget it. If we show up for our kids, they'll show up for us -- especially when we need them most. That's what my daughter did for me.

'My Two Daddies (Can Beat Up Your One)'

Brent Almond | Posted 08.14.2013 | Gay Voices
Brent Almond

Many have said how great it is that I wrote the song for my son, and how special it will be for him when he's older. But if I'm totally honest, I wrote it just as much -- if not more -- for me. I wrote it to convince myself that I am worthy of being equal, of being respected, of being a parent.

What Should Parents Teach Their Kids About Gay Pride?

Posted 06.16.2013 | Gay Voices

By Jamie (Simkins) Rogers for YourTango.com The other day, my husband and I had a frank discussion with my 8-year-old stepdaughter about equal righ...

Obama Gives Special Invite To Gay Dads From Michigan

The Huffington Post | Glennisha Morgan | Posted 06.14.2013 | Gay Voices

President Barack Obama surprised a gay Michigan couple with a special invite. Kent and Diego Love-Ramirez have been invited by the president for a...

Father Seeks Father

William Dameron | Posted 08.13.2013 | Gay Voices
William Dameron

When my daughters visit, they deposit little pieces of themselves all over our apartment: bras on the back of the bathroom door, empty glasses in the sink, and pretzels on the floor. When they leave, things go missing, like my heart.

'Show The Love' Series Documents Children Of Same-Sex Parents

Posted 06.13.2013 | Gay Voices

This beautiful photo series comes to HuffPost Gay Voices courtesy of the Family Equality Council (FEC) and COLAGE in honor of Pride Month 2013. Steve ...

A Family Like Any Other -- Sort Of

Jason Howe | Posted 08.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Jason Howe

Two toddlers anxious to hop in their parents' bed. Two parents trying not to start the day any earlier than necessary. It's a struggle repeated every day across the country, except that the two parents in question are both men, the babies born via an egg donor and surrogate mother.

'The Fosters' Star Discusses Playing A Lesbian And How Real Lesbians Have Reacted

The Huffington Post | Glennisha Morgan | Posted 06.12.2013 | Gay Voices

Sherri Saum of ABC Family's new sitcom, "The Fosters," which boasts Jennifer Lopez as executive producer, recently chatted with Elixher.com. Durin...

New Study Reveals Surprising Facts About Gay Parents

The Huffington Post | Glennisha Morgan | Posted 06.11.2013 | Gay Voices

Results from the world's largest study on gay parents was recently released. The study found that children brought up by same-sex couples are healthie...

On Being Proud

Jason Guberman | Posted 08.10.2013 | Gay Voices
Jason Guberman

There's something about Pride that never fully resonated with me, but now that I'm in a certain place in my life and a father, my pride is much subtler, but much more powerful than I ever could have expected.