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Gay Dad, Straight Daughter

Richard Alther | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Richard Alther

Julie was 7 or 8 when I was acknowledging my true orientation. My wife and I, soon to be amicably divorced, were fortunate enough to be living in a large, rambling country home. We decided that we could pursue our respective next chapters while staying under one roof.

The Great Mystery of Straight People

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

Of course, straight people were everywhere, but when they were on TV, they weren't real to me, and when they were my friends' parents, they weren't sexy to me. Young English teachers and comedy actors in movies, however, seemed both real and sexy to me.

Mom, Is 'Gay' a Bad Word?

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 12.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

B-Man leans forward and whispers in my ear, "When we were writing '-ay' words on our spelling boards today, someone wrote 'gay' and circled it as their favorite word. But someone else said 'gay' was a bad word. But it isn't, right?"

What Makes a Mother 'Primary'?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

I've been writing here about the experience of being the "other mother" for just about a month now. What is the "other mother"? How does the role develop, and where does it lead?

Our Families Are Making History

Steve Majors | Posted 10.28.2013 | Gay Voices
Steve Majors

It's taken more than three decades for families like mine to be recognized. Thirty years ago, I was at an age where I was pretty certain that I was gay, but at the time, I never could have predicted that I would one day be among 3 million parents in our country who are LGBT.

Gay Parents Are Like '5-Year-Olds Who Think They Can Drive,' Pundit Claims

Posted 10.28.2013 | Gay Voices

A Chicago-based Christian leader has sparked national controversy with some eyebrow-raising remarks about gay and lesbian parents. While participa...

Gay Dad Talks Producing TWO: The Story of Roman and Nyro With His Partner and Their Surrogate (AUDIO)

Charlotte Robinson | Posted 12.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Charlotte Robinson

The film documents Curtis Shaw's 12-year journey with his husband, legendary songwriter Desmond Child, and the extraordinary story of how they connected with Angela Whittaker, who would carry their twin sons Roman and Nyro into the world.

5 Signs You're the 'Other' Mother

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

My romantic assumption was that as women and as lesbians, my ex-partner and I could navigate a breakup more cleanly than a heterosexual couple could, that we could split the kids equally and fairly. So how did I find myself in the role of the secondary, or "other," mother?

New Developments In Russia's Bill To Remove The Children Of Gay Parents

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 10.21.2013 | Gay Voices

A proposed bill that would further solidify Russia's crackdown on its lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) citizens has been recalled for rev...

Great News For Gay Parents

AP | MARILYNN MARCHIONE | Posted 10.17.2013 | Gay Voices

BOSTON -- BOSTON (AP) — Fertility clinics have put a new twist on how to make babies: A "two-mom" approach that lets female same-sex couples share t...

The Perils of Heterosexual Rights

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Since fighting to be included in the heteronormative model of marriage and then being steamrolled by the heteronormative model of divorce, I've been fighting these systems from the perspective of the "other" mother.

Celebrating National Coming Out Day With Our Families (PHOTOS)

Leonard Wrigley | Posted 12.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Leonard Wrigley

Typically, part of the experience of being "in the closet" for any length of time is a fear of losing or becoming estranged from family. But it can also involve a fear of not having a family of one's own in the future too. This was one of my biggest concerns growing up gay.

Russia's Latest Anti-Gay Move Targets Parents

Agence France Presse | | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices

Russian lawmakers will in February debate a bill that could see homosexual couples lose custody of their children, parliamentary documents showed Wedn...

In Adoption and Same-Sex Parenting, Who Is the 'Primary' Mother?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Answering this for myself required taking an honest look at my own experience of two mothers, one adoptive, one biological. What makes a mother "primary"? What makes a mother real?

Three Moms, One Child and a New School Year

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 12.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

This a story of a mother with two mothers who is raising children with another mother and an ex-partner mother. That's a heck of a lot of mothers! Combine these admittedly confusing family dynamics with the start of the school year and you've got a situation that's complicated at best.

Modern Family Love

Brent Almond | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Brent Almond

My partner and I have been compared to TV's quintessential gay dads quite a few times over the years. (My trainer at the gym once told me, "You're like the big guy, because you're so, um, funny!") And their milestones have mirrored ours on many occasions.

Who Is In a Gay Family?

Amelia | Posted 11.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

"Are you a gay parent?" asked the stranger. Without a second's thought, I responded, "Yes! My 8-year-old son is gay." It wasn't until later that I realized that that wasn't what he was asking. He was asking whether I am a gay person who has kids. But that experience made me think about another.

Lesbian Mom On The Most Important Parenting Lessons She's Learned

Posted 09.25.2013 | Gay Voices

By Mary Malia for YourTango.com No girl starts life thinking, "I'm going to be a lesbian mom when I grow up!" As a child, if you're thinking about...

He's Having a Baby! Men Having Babies Conference in NYC Offers Practical Assistance to Gay Men Dreaming of Parenting

Christopher Murray | Posted 11.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Christopher Murray

The Men Having Babies conference returns to New York City on Oct. 6 to offer workshops and panels for gay men thinking about becoming parents. In addition to advice from experts, parents and surrogates, the conference will hold a new panel specifically for men with HIV.

Babies! The Natural Next Step Following Same-Sex Marriage

Nathan M. Schaefer | Posted 11.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Nathan M. Schaefer

The state of New York has a draconian law on the books that currently makes it extremely challenging for couples to have full legal protection over their children, whether they're adopting, using a gestational carrier or have no biological ties to the child they're raising.

Seeking My Anonymous Sperm-Donor Father

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 12.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

I did once seek out my biological father. A front-page article had hit The New York Times, and I was suddenly spammed by 6,000 well-meaning friends emailing me about DonorSiblingRegistry.com.

'Won't Somebody Please Think of the Children?!' NOM Continues to Peddle Hysteria

Sunny Bjerk | Posted 11.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Sunny Bjerk

Organizations such as the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) continue to claim that children with gay parents suffer severe emotional and mental abuse, even going so far as to argue that they are more likely to become child molesters than children raised by heterosexual parents.

The Gayest Weekend Ever (PHOTOS)

Elizabeth Baudouin | Posted 11.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Elizabeth Baudouin

There's so much to be said about the road leading up to your aunts and your moms getting married in the same weekend, from pretending your mom was straight so that you could get through seventh grade to coming out yourself to a tribe of first-generation lesbians.

At the Center of the Rainbow Family Explosion

Brandon J. Bankowski, M.D. | Posted 11.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Brandon J. Bankowski, M.D.

We are humbled to do our part in helping the LGBTQ community start or grow their families. Helping same-sex couples, men and women who probably wouldn't have dared to dream a dream this big just a few years ago, is life-changing work as physicians.

Proposed Russian Bill Will Deny Gay Parents Custody Of Their Children

AP | Posted 09.05.2013 | Gay Voices

MOSCOW -- A Russian lawmaker has proposed a bill that would deny gay parents custody over their children. The draft bill, published on parliament's w...