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How Did I Get Here?

Kelly Hirt | Posted 10.30.2013 | Parents
Kelly Hirt

Some answers used to be accepted without further questions -- We prayed for the perfect little boy for our family and that was you! But now, we get more specific questions and some are... complicated.

State's Ban On Gay Adoption, Foster Parenting Faces Huge Challenge

Reuters | Posted 10.27.2013 | Gay Voices

By Brendan O'Brien Aug 27 (Reuters) - Gay and lesbian couples in Nebraska should be allowed to serve as foster or adoptive parents to ...

A Back-To-School Guide For Parents Of Gay Kids

Posted 08.18.2013 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com Hard to believe it's mid-August and in some areas of the country and world, kids have already taken up residence...

Gay Man Comes Out to Wife and Children, Strengthens Family Unit (VIDEO)

Nathan Manske | Posted 10.14.2013 | Gay Voices
Nathan Manske

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'What Do You Call Your Moms?'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 10.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

This question is difficult, because it is both personal and political. This feels to me like the sophisticated version of the needling question "but which one is your real mom?" except of course this question, about who gets to be called "Mommy," is more legitimate.

What My Daughter Needs To Know About Our Family

Casey Carey-Brown | Posted 10.09.2013 | Parents
Casey Carey-Brown

How do you tell a 4-year-old that people think our family is wrong? How do you teach a child to find a teacher or a police officer or another parent to help her if someone says something to her about her family?

A Gay Dad's Family Teaches the Ex-Gay Movement How to Throw a Real Party

Rob Watson | Posted 10.06.2013 | Gay Voices
Rob Watson

After the poor ex-gays were mind-numbingly humiliated beyond all possible belief in a very public epic fail with their "Ex-Gay Lobby Day," my sons and I decided to sit down and write them a letter with some helpful suggestions.

French Woman Offers To Breastfeed Babies Of Gay Male Couples

Reuters | Posted 10.06.2013 | Parents

PARIS (Reuters) - A woman has posted an offer on a French website to breast-feed babies of homosexual male couples for 100 euros ($130) a day, stirrin...

Why Neil Patrick Harris Is Just the Worst

Mark Vigorito | Posted 10.04.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark Vigorito

I have taken my children to playdates only to witness the palpable, growing disappointment of the other parents when they realize that we are not, in fact, the Harris-Burtka family. (How sweetly their names hyphenate. Now try hyphenating Vigorito-Horowitz with a straight face.)

Changes

Jason Guberman | Posted 10.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Jason Guberman

I'm not the first or only guy to be a dad. Or a single dad. Or even a single gay dad. I don't think there's that many of us, but I'm not one of a kind. Nevertheless, I am different from almost everyone I'm close with, including the gay couples I know with children.

Why Are Gay Parents Still Struggling For Acceptance, Post-DOMA?

Posted 07.27.2013 | Gay Voices

By Samantha Escobar for YourTango.com Last month, we reached two big milestones in the gay rights movement: the overturning of DOMA and Prop 8. Wh...

So You Went Ahead and Got Knocked Up...

Staceyann Chin | Posted 09.23.2013 | Parents
Staceyann Chin

I tip my wilted hat to the women who keep a spotless house in the face of a full day of work at the office and more than one small child in the home. I would like to sit at their feet and beg them to teach me the secret of their super human abilities.

The Day I Took My 10-Year-Old Sons and 80-Year-Old Parents to See a Show About Drag Queens

Rob Watson | Posted 09.22.2013 | Gay Voices
Rob Watson

For me, the most moving part of this production of La Cage aux Folles was near the end, when the straight son of the gay couple, Jean-Michel, acknowledges his gay parents, and in particular his nonbiological "mother." The lyrics were the perfect description of how much I love my sons.

Bray Away the Gay

Mike Diamond | Posted 09.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Mike Diamond

I've reached a conclusion: I'm not gay. Oh, don't misunderstand me. I am definitely homosexual, 100-percent. Honey, I loves me some big, juicy mens. I just don't have the trappings to be a 21st-century gay. I am what I think of as "post-gay."

A Gay Dad's Advice On Successful Parenting

Posted 07.21.2013 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons For YourTango.com It's been a few weeks since the defeat of DOMA and since Prop 8 became history. The day those rulings came down,...

Gay Parents, Claim the Right to Be Imperfect

Dawn Dais | Posted 09.17.2013 | Parents
Dawn Dais

There are so many people and organizations in the world who regularly proclaim LGBT families to be less than. The natural reaction to that hatred is our own proclamations that we are PERFECT! Our kids are PERFECT! Our family's PERFECTION puts your straight mediocrity to shame!

After the DOMA Decision, We Face an Impossible Choice

Aly Windsor | Posted 09.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Aly Windsor

Do we stay in North Carolina and raise our children around extended family in a state that denies our family the rights and protections of marriage, or do we leave extended family, friends, jobs, and neighbors behind to raise them in a state that values and protects us just like any other family?

An All-American Dad... Almost

Dan Bucatinsky | Posted 09.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Dan Bucatinsky

The kids want to fish. Damn. I'm going to have to dig for worms. I hate worms. They're icky. But the dad I'm aspiring to be doesn't say words like "icky." Why can't I be more like those other kinds of dads? Wait. Is this just internalized homophobia? Probably. So what am I saying?

When 'Mama' Is Her First Word

Doug Rigg | Posted 09.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Doug Rigg

After the "M" bomb went off, a barrage of questions entered my already crowded brain, questions I'm sure many gay dads have pondered: How are we going to explain our unique family to our daughter? How do we explain the concept of having a biological mother who is not actually her parent?

Unlikely Hero

Mark Hoelterhoff | Posted 09.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark Hoelterhoff

As a parent, every part of you, every fiber of your being, is designed to protect your children, keep them from pain, shield them from hurt, and never, ever inflict suffering on their precious hearts. It is that protective spirit that kept me in the closet for so long.

Deciphering Hate Speech: How Coded Words Like 'Family' Breed Contempt

Dr. Joe Wenke | Posted 09.01.2013 | Gay Voices
Dr. Joe Wenke

Usually hate speech is pretty direct. A good example is the Web address for the Westboro Baptist Church. But sometimes hate speech isn't direct at all. It may even be a little bit involved. Consider, for example, how anti-LGBTQ organizations use the word "family."

On SCOTUS Watch, With Children

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 08.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

I consider following up with the words Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. famously used, "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice." But I suspect K-Bird's too young to understand that. Then again, maybe he isn't.

Lesbian Mom in Colorado Could Be Among First to Receive Green Card When DOMA Is Struck Down by Supreme Court (VIDEO)

Lavi Soloway | Posted 08.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Lavi Soloway

For Cathy and Catriona and their three children, everything is at stake. If the Supreme Court strikes down DOMA, Cathy could immediately receive approval of her green card application. If the law is upheld, she will be forced to move thousands of miles away from her spouse and children.

Good Enough to Parent but Not to Marry

Cynthia Godsoe | Posted 08.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Cynthia Godsoe

Many opponents of same-sex marriage argue that children are harmed by being raised by lesbians or gay men. Not only do the data clearly refute this claim, but if those making the argument genuinely believed it, why would they endorse adoption by these parents they consider harmful?

A Responsibility to Those Who Come After

Emily Hecht-McGowan | Posted 08.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Emily Hecht-McGowan

Just as those who came before our daughter Sadie fought to make the world a better place for her, our pledge to Sadie is that we will teach her, through our words and our deeds, that she too has a responsibility to those who come after her.