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Gay Shame

Your Bogeyman: Whether You Stalk Him or Face Him...Defeat Him

Michael Rohrer | Posted 11.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Rohrer

I recently saw a production of Stalking the Bogeyman at New World Stages in NYC. The play tells the true story of David Holthouse: the rape he endured in 1978 as a 7-year old, and his plan, as an adult, to murder his rapist.

Getting to Gay

Henry V | Posted 10.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Henry V

What the hell are you doing here, anyway? OK, that's it. You need to get your ass home! You're fucking 40 years old! You've got kids! You have a wife! It's winter 2009. Just a few months ago everything changed when I acknowledged to my wife Evelyn that I'm gay.

Why Michael Sam's Kiss Made Me Uncomfortable

Lorie Burch | Posted 07.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Lorie Burch

I realized this weekend that, even though I am a dedicated advocate for LGBT equality and have been fairly open about my own coming out, I still get challenged by some of the historic steps we are making in the arch of justice for the gay community.

Confessions of an Adult Grudge Holder

Michael Rohrer | Posted 07.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Rohrer

We can't go back. We can't change it. We can learn from the past and make better choices, or let the past keep us from growing. For me, those feelings have no place in my present.

I Swish

Michael Rohrer | Posted 05.21.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Rohrer

I swish. I'm tired of apologizing for it or being scared of it. I'm ready to be comfortable in my own skin. I'm not completely there, but I'm ready to be. Isn't that the first step? Acknowledging?

'Baa, Baa, Black Sheep, Have You Any Wool?' No, but I Have Some Shame

Michael Rohrer | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Rohrer

I have so convinced myself that my parents are disappointed in me for being gay that I keep pushing them to confirm my suspicions. I seem unable to accept that they aren't disappointed in me or ashamed of me. You know what that might mean? That I'm disappointed in me.

How 60 Seconds of Violence Last Two Years

Kyle Bella | Posted 04.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Kyle Bella

Though I am better, I must still confront the idea that what has happened is never really gone forever, even though I wish I could scrub that memory away forever. I wish there was a way to get rid of those punches and the feel of asphalt against my bleeding knees.

Erasing Gay and Transgender History

Toshio Meronek | Posted 04.08.2013 | San Francisco
Toshio Meronek

Lower Polk Neighbors (LPN) is a central San Francisco neighborhood association. For years the organization has been openly trying to erase the history of Polk Street as a sanctuary for lower-income gay and transgender people.

Dating And Fear In The Age Of HIV: 'I'd Like To Sleep With You -- And I'm HIV-Positive'

Carl Sandler | Posted 11.10.2012 | Gay Voices
Carl Sandler

The dearth of proud, openly positive gay people online in most cities is a lost opportunity for all of us. More open disclosure can lead toward better, more informed, and safer sex. It would also go far toward removing some of the shame we have toward the disease.

From Silence, Stigma, And Shame: Finding My Voice

Chana Wilson | Posted 09.24.2012 | Gay Voices
Chana Wilson

Fear was releasing from my body as my mother's story echoed on the airwaves from the Pacific to the Sierra foothills. But when it came to my story -- my story, not my mother's -- the silence of my childhood was still deeply embedded in my body.

The Year Queers Fought The De-Politicization Of Pride

Toshio Meronek | Posted 08.28.2012 | Gay Voices
Toshio Meronek

San Francisco Pride 2012 had its wasted revelry, long Porta-Potty lines, and enough boys and girls to fill Civic Center a couple of times over -- all things we've come to expect and love from the celebration. What was different was the amount of radical activism coinciding with the festivities.

What Causes Gay Guilt And Sexual Shame? Explanations From Carlin Ross

Jincey Lumpkin | Posted 07.04.2012 | Gay Voices
Jincey Lumpkin

Lately I have really been deconstructing my views on sexuality to get to the bottom of why women are treated unfairly. I've invited back the gorgeous sex educator Carlin Ross to help me break down my issues.