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How My Son Told Me He Was Gay

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 03.25.2014 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

A conversation with your gay teen does not end after an acceptance of their sexual choices. They, too, need help getting out of complicated relationships and negotiating all of the tricky aspects of relationships.

A Mother at Mothers and Sons

Tovah Feldshuh | Posted 03.06.2014 | Gay Voices
Tovah Feldshuh

Mothers and Sons, refreshingly imagines a world that the backyard barbecue guests of my childhood could probably never have imagined

On Being a Disinherited Gay Son

Christopher Murray | Posted 03.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Christopher Murray

With all the complexities of families, of me, of good decisions and poor ones, of other crises and conflicts, how much does the story of my father and me and its missing jigsaw pieces have to do with my being a gay man? I've come to believe quite a lot, actually.

'Hey, Mom, I'm Gay'

Dayna Steele | Posted 03.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Dayna Steele

"I'm gay," my 16-year-old son blurted out. Actually, he texted it following a teenage tantrum about something totally unrelated to sexual orientation.

Stop Waiting for My Gay Son to Change

Amelia | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Part of me gets it. Kids go through phases when it comes to what they like. But the Darren Criss thing? That one hasn't gone anywhere. And I get how unusual it is to see such a young child identifying as gay. But another part of me gets really tired of having this conversation.

When Your 7-Year-Old Son Says, 'I Want to Be Gay'

Amelia | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My middle son was tired, so he was nestled against my chest as I floated on my back. "Mom," he said, breaking the silence, "I want to be gay." This was unexpected. My middle son had never had boy crushes like my older kid, and last year he wanted to marry a female classmate.

What Happened When My Son Came Out... as Straight

Lori Duron | Posted 11.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Lori Duron

By trying to eliminate the need for a gay son to come out, I created an environment where a straight son felt the need to come out. As I try to learn from my mother's mistakes, I may be making some new ones of my own. I guess that's how it goes with parenting.

Mourning the Dad Who Died Before He Could Accept His Gay Son

Ryan Buxton | Posted 10.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Ryan Buxton

I always assumed the years of hiding my truth from my dad didn't matter, that once I came out to him we'd have all the time in the world to reconcile our opposing viewpoints. Instead, closure was another thing we didn't get to share.

My Dad and His Gay Son

Malcolm Boyd | Posted 08.26.2013 | Religion
Malcolm Boyd

"Your mother and I are separating," he said. "That means we won't be living together anymore. Do you want to live with your mother or me?" Now I can see that my heart simply broke in that moment.

When My Son Met His 'Boyfriend,' Darren Criss (PHOTO)

Amelia | Posted 08.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

What could I say to this young man who meant so much to my kid, this young man who, by playing a television character, had helped lead my son to tell me about his orientation and, by extension, helped change the trajectory of my own life toward activism?

Coming Out As Amelia

Amelia | Posted 06.27.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Complete anonymity is getting in the way of what my blog posts are all about: reaching out to people and being damn proud of my kid. I'd like the opportunity to speak to more parents about celebrating our LGBT kids and meet more of our fabulous LGBT youth. So I've arrived at a compromise.

A Father's Unexpected Response To His Gay Son's Coming Out

Levi A. Miles | Posted 06.15.2013 | Gay Voices
Levi A. Miles

When my dad left to pick up some dinner, my mom, whom I've been out to for almost two years, said, "Your father saw your Facebook status when I left my Facebook up. The cat's out of the bag." You see, I hadn't told him.

To Move Or Not To Move?

Amelia | Posted 04.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

As our children grow, we look around and wonder, "Is this the right place for us to be? Is this where we want our children to grow up? What is the environment we've chosen teaching them?" These questions were heightened after our oldest son started identifying as gay at a young age.

If My Gay Son Realizes He's Really My Straight Son, So What?

Amelia | Posted 04.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

If our son realizes at a later date that he isn't gay, I won't be embarrassed. No matter who he is, we want him to know that we love him. And whom he loves and is attracted to doesn't change a thing. If anything, we are setting an example to all our kids that our love really is unconditional.

A New Coming-Out Story

Amelia | Posted 03.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My son never lived in the proverbial closet. He's never thought of himself any other way or pretended that he did. So what do I think he was coming out of? His narrative is so different from the ones that came before that I don't even have the terminology to talk about it appropriately.

Raising A Gay Son Is The Same As Raising A Straight Son, Except When It's Not

Amelia | Posted 03.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Yes, at times it is different. At times it is hard, emotional and challenging. It's not something people are used to seeing, which can make them uncomfortable, so it requires extra work of me as a parent. But that doesn't mean it's bad. And he's worth it. All my kids are.

Some Parents Might Not Want A Gay Kid, But I Do

Amelia | Posted 02.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

On Dec. 10 a conservative politician in the UK commented, "I think most parents would prefer their children not to be gay." As the mom of an openly gay son, that comment pisses me off, but it doesn't surprise me. It's something I have heard many times before.

An Open Letter To My Republican-Voting Family

Antony Merkel | Posted 01.10.2013 | Gay Voices
Antony Merkel

I'm not asking for anything. I'm not asking for you to change your political affiliation, or become card-carrying members of PFLAG. I'm not asking you to change the way you act around me, or what you say, or how you feel. All I want, all I ever wanted, is for you to know how I feel.

Conversations I Don't Want To Have With My Son

Amelia | Posted 11.17.2012 | Gay Voices
Amelia

I think every parent has those discussions they don't want to have with their children. But now that my oldest son, at 7 years old, identifies as gay, I find myself facing a whole new set of things I just don't want to say to him.

Loving, Yes. But Brave?

Jess Wilson | Posted 11.06.2012 | Parents
Jess Wilson

As much as I, too, applaud John for writing the letter, and as much as I found it pitch-perfect in its tenor and its content, I just couldn't swallow 'brave.'

It's Been An Amazing Year... Thank You!

Amelia | Posted 10.16.2012 | Gay Voices
Amelia

I will always remember Aug. 16, 2011, because it's a day that truly changed my life. It was the day I wrote up a cute little story about my oldest son and his crush on Glee's Blaine and naïvely posted it to a blog.

A Letter To My Hypothetically Gay Son

John Kinnear | Posted 10.09.2012 | Gay Voices
John Kinnear

My son is living in his mom's belly right now, so obviously we don't know his sexual orientation. Still, the letter I read Tuesday morning made me wonder what my letter would say if the news that my son was gay ended up being a surprise. So here it is.

The Father I Want To Be

Dave | Posted 08.16.2012 | Gay Voices
Dave

Is there any harm in raising kids who treat gay people with respect? If our son turns out to be straight, there is still a very good chance he will have a gay classmate or a young gay neighbor. Do we want him to ridicule this child or sit by and watch others do it?

Why -- And How -- We Accept Our Gay Son As Devout Mormon Parents

Jane and Bob | Posted 08.15.2012 | Gay Voices
Jane and Bob

As a faithful LDS/Mormon family, we expected our son Will to follow a certain path. He would grow up, get married, start a family, and be a faithful and active member of the church. But for our family, a different story began around the time our son Will turned 2.

My Son Does Not Need To Prove Anything

Amelia | Posted 08.06.2012 | Gay Voices
Amelia

When my 7-year-old son first announced to us he was gay, the response from the people in our lives, the people who are important to us, was overwhelmingly positive. But now that time has passed, about six months, a few people are starting to change their tune.