For over a year I researched the words that people use to describe gay men -- words like "faggot," "pillow biter," "queer," "gym bunny," "bear," "twink," "homosexual" and even "gay" -- to get at the heart of the assumptions that people make about us.

A recent article on Slate.com about a Reddit subgroup known as "Gaybros" inspired the above conversation on HuffPost Live. Urban Dictionary defines...

Husbands embraces clichés, stereotypes and tropes to make a point: Most old ideas are only as meaningless or as negative as their context. Few of these notions are intrinsically detrimental, as the judgements we attach to them exist only in our minds.

Throughout history, dominant groups have depicted or represented minority groups in a variety of negative ways in order to maintain control or mastery. I have found many clear and stunning connections between historical representations of LGBT people and Jewish people.

Believe it or not, many therapists still think many of these myths are true.

There was something about Jim and I my new neighbors never suspected: we're gay slobs. We're one dried cat carcass away from a cameo on Hoarders.

While many of us LGBTQ people use our gaydar in a tongue-and-cheek way to poke fun at each other, or to brag about our accuracy in spotting each other, we're basing these assumptions on socially constructed signifiers that are also used to discriminate against us.

What happens when both bully and victim are openly, vociferously interested in sleeping with members of their own gender? And what if, tracking the very topic of membership, one man says that another is "the wrong kind of gay"?

Since long before biblical references to Abraham, men have engaged in sexual relations outside the confines of marriage, but I am continually struck by the charge that ensuring marriage equality for same-sex couples will cheapen the institution of marriage.

Community should know better. In fact, it usually does. That's why I catalogue Harmon's apology as a likely first: a consensus that these stereotypes aren't outright offensive, just indicative of sub-par television writing.