Just because you're married, doesn't mean dating goes out the window. It's easy to find yourself in the same monotonous routine once you're married, especially given all the new responsibilities you may face as a couple and as parents.
Deep, compassionate, committed listening is what breaks the dark spell. Out of the emotional connection, understanding, a newfound cooperation, more trust, peace of mind, and ease is present in the relationship and in your life in general.
I do know that awareness can be taught, it can be learned, it can be discovered, but I'm not sure that it can ever be arrived at. In other words, it's a gradual unpeeling where you never get to the core.