As I have gone through my life, I sometimes look back on the wasted days and weeks I have spent, sometimes chasing meaningless pursuits with guilt and regret. We all must live with our decisions. Now I strive to live life to the fullest and be the very best version of myself.
It's not that you need to wake up and seize the day. It's that you need to have a vision of what impossible thing you're supposed to do -- and that vision will allow you to let go of the protective coating that keeps you "asleep" and numb to the pain of not knowing.
Wishful thinking is usually an outgrowth of a fear. People don't resort to wishful thinking because it works. They resort to wishful thinking because it allows them to avoid confronting their fear. Wishful thinking allows you to avoid discomfort, stress, change, anxiety and pressure.
I came up with a few questions I found useful to ponder as I reviewed my year-to-date progress. Start off this process on a good note by reviewing and celebrating what you have accomplished so far this year -- even if it wasn't on your original to-do list.
The United States was not perfect when it began, and it is still far from perfect today. However, if one constantly writes off America because of its failings in the past or present, then one misses the general point: America was born a nation to perpetually move forward.
We must recognize and address the negative pattern of shame, which tells us that we're no damn good, an indictment made by our own judge and jury in the form of our inner critic. We are flawed and imperfect, but let's not forget that we have our strengths, talents and virtues.
I found that the excitement of having reached a goal wears off relatively quickly, and I'm usually left feeling empty and thinking, "Now what do i do?" while basking in the dull light of my own mediocrity.
It's limited resources, not gender, that typically holds us back from getting what we want, whether it's a corner office in the C-Suite, an additional shift at Wendy's or an extra week of vacation each summer.
There are, I think, two dilemmas that complicate the reconciliation of wanting what we have and having what we want. Let's refer to them as the "night on call" conundrum, and the "wrinkle in time" fallacy.
Go through the steps above and get clear on your priority areas, priority goals and what you plan to do to start moving forward in the next month. Share your goals below if you'd like support on whether or not they're too much or if you just want some public accountability.
Parents, like Adams, who think of their child more in terms of who they believe the child ought to be -- in terms of the child's duties and obligations -- are more likely to influence their child through the providing of (and protecting from) negative experiences.
When I was nearing the end of my college experience, a lot of my friends had a clear idea of their definition of success. It was getting through medical school and becoming a doctor. It was winning a Tony for a Broadway musical. I didn't have a clue as to what my definition of success was.