This idea is fed by the commonly held and taught mantra that Christians often repeat. "Your emotions will lie to you!" we warn one another. And with these two ideas, we retreat to one of the most deadly places we can: denial.
I embraced the image of myself as the radical abstinence practitioner until I became engaged at the age of 24. Up to this point, my pride had deluded me into thinking that I had a balanced, Godly view of sexuality.
Much of leaving was a clean break, but much of it was a slow, brutal tearing apart. The last six years have been a great experiment as I re-learn who I am, who God is, and how the world functions.