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Grief and Loss

Food for Thought on Yom Kippur: Suicide and Mental Illness

Joanne L. Harpel, M.Phil., J.D. | Posted 09.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Joanne L. Harpel, M.Phil., J.D.

I'm often asked whether suicide is a "choice," and of course in some literal sense it is. Yet it's a decision profoundly influenced by the hopelessness, distorted thinking, and compromised decision-making that can result from serious mental illnesses.

Stretch Marks of the Soul

Jessica Zucker, Ph.D. | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents
Jessica Zucker, Ph.D.

I'm trying to figure out how best to honor my pregnancies -- all three -- and the body that housed them. They don't necessarily need to be emboldened in my postpartum size and I guess stretch marks of the soul are the stretch marks that aren't readily visible to anyone other than me.

This Is Pediatric Cancer

Kathy Glow | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents
Kathy Glow

If this bothers you -- as it should -- look. Think. Research. Donate if you can. Spread the word. Share. I don't want any other parent to know firsthand what pediatric cancer looks like.

Losing My Mother Inspired Me to Help Others -- Like You

Ellevate | Posted 09.17.2014 | Women
Ellevate

We plan for the birth of a child, for our children's weddings and for our retirements, don't we? Then why don't we plan for one of life's greatest transitions?

Insanity Pain

Dr. Howard Samuels | Posted 09.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Howard Samuels

Don't take your love away from me, Don't you leave my heart in misery, If you go, then I'll be blue, 'Cause breaking up is hard to do... -- Neil Sedak...

Grief In the Rearview: Three Motherless Years

Nicole Belanger | Posted 09.16.2014 | Women
Nicole Belanger

I assumed that it would be loud, dramatic and chaotic. I thought that my body would collapse under the weight of the grief, that I would be so beside myself with sadness that I would be unable to function.

9 Step Action Plan For Overcoming Loss And Grief

Posted 09.11.2014 | Dr. Phil

Dr. Phil suggests following these steps to get through your difficult time.

A Letter to Melissa Rivers

Alexandra Rosas | Posted 09.08.2014 | Women
Alexandra Rosas

It was while watching Melissa Rivers co-host a red carpet event with her mother, Joan Rivers, that I first recognized the look on Melissa's face as her mother spoke.

The Daily Risks of Good Parenting

Sherri Kuhn | Posted 09.08.2014 | Parents
Sherri Kuhn

How do we do this every day, when there is no guarantee? No promise of a future, or of grandchildren on our laps, no cure for cancer, no special bubble wrap that can protect our children? We let them go each day, small pieces of our hearts with goals and a will all their own.

Grief Isn't for the Faint of Heart

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 09.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

I've written about the death of my husband here -- http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristin-meekhof/the-moment-i-knew_25_b_3414936.html -- and I've writ...

Robin Williams: Oh Captain, My Captain in Life and Death

Maya Mathias | Posted 09.03.2014 | Entertainment
Maya Mathias

I didn't get to meet Robin. Yet, like so many of you, I felt like I knew him. I'd had the privilege of peering into those sensitive blue eyes on TV or in the movies, and I believed that I'd plumbed the depths of his soul.

Magic

John Roman, Ph.D. | Posted 08.29.2014 | Parents
John Roman, Ph.D.

The thing about loss is that it's not a dark, brooding presence. Not like in the movies. Not in reality. Loss hibernates.

Moving Into A World of Stark Contrasts After The Death Of My Husband

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 08.27.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

cried during my Tai Chi as I felt the energy of the mountains and Robert fill me. And I played with my horse and danced. And found I could be whole. And found I could be shattered.

Rebirthing After the Death of My Husband

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 10.13.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I find rebirthing to be excruciating. I am consciously participating in its unfolding. That is part of the pain. The awareness. The consciousness. The involvement. It is not going easily or quietly or calmly. It is agony. Filled with bottomless voids, and oh so many memories. Memories of the past and of what could have been. But will not be. And I struggle to make new memories.

Wallowing Through the Muck: Discovering Joy and Meaning After Loss

Dave Roberts | Posted 10.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Dave Roberts

There are still moments of sadness, moments when I yearn for the physical presence of my daughter. I have learned that joy and sadness will be part of my experience for the remainder of my life. However, I have also found my peace in a forever-changed world; that has been empowering.

Aging Boomers: Is 50 Really the New 30?

Meryl Ain, Ed.D. | Posted 10.08.2014 | Fifty
Meryl Ain, Ed.D.

How do we venerate age? How do we talk about death, dying, and grief? How do we comfort the bereaved? How do we honor the memories and legacies of loved ones?

Searching for Seva: How Learning to Help Others Their Way Healed My Life

Jan DeBlieu | Posted 10.01.2014 | Impact
Jan DeBlieu

On an August day in 2012, in a remote jungle village in Peru, a group of little girls jostled each other for a turn at a newly installed spigot, where they could fill plastic cups for their first-ever drink of filtered water.

How Finding My Father's iPhone Helped Me Mourn His Death

Jordan Jayson | Posted 09.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Jordan Jayson

I realize nothing can replace a face-to-face goodbye. But I believe the digital clues I've been able to piece together give me the memories I need, and I'm grateful that I was able to witness his life -- even in death.

Tips for Coping With Traumatic Loss: Non-Profit Assisting Bereaved Military Families Shares Advice

Bonnie Carroll | Posted 09.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Bonnie Carroll

Coping with the death of a loved one is never easy, but a sudden and traumatic loss can raise special concerns for the family members and friends left behind. These deaths are unexpected and survivors must grapple with the knowledge that their loved ones experienced trauma.

Letting Go of Pieces of the Past

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 09.21.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

What do I do with this dream? And now these thoughts? What part of the past is dragging me down? What part of the past can I let go of?

Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 09.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

Brown-Eyed Boy

Michelle E. Steinke | Posted 09.10.2014 | Parents
Michelle E. Steinke

Widowhood is full of mixed emotions. On any given day the same situation can hit me a hundred different ways.

Love Letters From the Past, or Present or Future

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 08.25.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

The letters were written in 1968. I was 17. They are stream-of-consciousness letters from the late sixties. Love letters.

What Mom Missed

Erica Ford | Posted 08.04.2014 | Women
Erica Ford

When my first daughter started cooing, my heart swelled and I ran to call my mother. The feel of my ribs turning inward on themselves when I remembered she was dead was more than I could bear.

Each Father's Day, I Remember

Alexandra Rosas | Posted 08.02.2014 | Women
Alexandra Rosas

My parents would have parties in our basement and the old records from South America would be pulled out. My father, with a brown bottle of beer in his hand and the always-present 1960′s fixture of a cigarette hanging from his lower lip, would slide his feet back and forth.