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Brown-Eyed Boy

Michelle E. Steinke | Posted 07.11.2014 | Parents
Michelle E. Steinke

Widowhood is full of mixed emotions. On any given day the same situation can hit me a hundred different ways.

What Is Absolutely Okay To Do After Becoming Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.12.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The following is a partial list of what it is absolutely, positively OK for you to do after becoming widowed.

Why Even Some Experts Get It Wrong When It Comes To Grief

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.05.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It should come as no surprise that I receive my fair share of invitations to grief workshops, grief conferences, grief seminars and so forth. One such recent invitation included a description of a grief workshop that kind of -- well, horrified me.

Why 'Getting Over It' Is A Myth You Should Ignore

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.28.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I had been widowed just over a year and well into my own Healing Journey when my mother gave me some very wise advice (which I both follow and dole out to this day). She told me to stop and look back at how far I had progressed since that awful season in time when my husband passed away. When I actually took the time to stop and examine how far I had progressed to that point (and have progressed since that time many years ago), I started worrying less about being "over it" and started appreciating the healing that I had accomplished instead.

The One Thing You Should Never Ever Say To The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.31.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

As defined by virtually every dictionary in every language, "ex" means former. The death of a spouse or partner does not nullify a marriage or relationship -- that sort of nullification involves a divorce or a breakup. I assure you that when it comes to widowhood, no one left the marriage willingly

'I Was Dragged Kicking And Screaming Into The Wonder That Has Become Social Media'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I confess... I am a blonde-haired, green-eyed, modern-day dinosaur.

Who Is Really To 'Blame' For Your Spouse's Death?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It is a sad reality that after losing a spouse, many widowed are the victims of accusation, criticism and actual blame. Whether it comes from the outside (relatives, friends, acquaintances, etc.) or is instead self-imposed, there is a lot of unnecessary pain being inflicted on the widowed; the very people who are in desperate need of support, rather than spite.

10 Must-Have New Year Resolutions for the Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.23.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It's that time of year again. We are all getting peppered and pelted with those endless ads and commercials designed to help you "start the New Yea...

6 Important Ways For The Widowed To Facilitate Healing

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.22.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Because those of us who either are or ever have been a part of Widowed World not only understand... we will never disappear.

More States Need 911 Overdose Good Samaritan Laws

Elaine Pawlowski | Posted 01.23.2014 | Impact
Elaine Pawlowski

When limited protection is attached to 911 Overdose Good Samaritan Laws, young people in particular are still afraid to call 911. N.Y. State for example, is choosing who may seek lifesaving emergency treatment.

Why You Have To Actively Choose To Be Happy

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.30.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to your last week of Bereavement Boot Camp. I hope that it has been a wonderful period of growth, discovery... and perhaps just a little bit of anticipation for the future. As we wrap up Boot Camp, I want to share a brief story that I hope you will take into your heart and incorporate into your Healing Journey -- remembering your past, embracing your today and looking to your future.

Why It's Important To Socialize Even After A Major Loss

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.16.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Six of Bereavement Boot Camp. Have you noticed any changes in your Healing Journey at this point? I hope so, because I am now about to push you out of your house. Did I just give you a big headache?

How To Stop Living A Life Based On Other People's Opinions

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.09.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Five of Bereavement Boot Camp. You have probably noticed that as time goes on, the subject matter and the challenges get a little tougher -- but then again, so have you.

'We Are Constantly Surrounded By Negativity'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 09.01.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Four of Bereavement Boot Camp. We are now at the halfway point, which is when people will usually do one of two things; either give up out of frustration or dig in with even more determination. Now is not the time to quit!

How to Handle Your Child's Social Media Disaster

Jason P. Stadtlander | Posted 10.21.2013 | Parents
Jason P. Stadtlander

What happens when your child has been abducted by a predator and you don't know who the predator is or where to look?

An Important Reminder Everyone Needs To Hear

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 10.19.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Two of Bereavement Boot Camp; your continued "kick start" on your Healing Journey. Don't worry if you missed Week One (or any week hereafter), you can jump in whenever you like. This week's theme is an important reminder and one that every single one of us (myself included) needs to hear periodically.

Welcome To Week 1 Of Bereavement Boot Camp

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 10.12.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week One of 'Bereavement Boot Camp'. Did I just scare you? Relax. Let me reassure you that that this particular Boot Camp does not include barking drill sergeants and 20-mile hikes.

The Day I Finally Admitted I Was Depressed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 10.05.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

September, 2000: Mike was two years along in the battle against ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) at that point and having lost his ability to swallow food, he'd had a feeding tube surgically placed so that he could receive nutrition.

How To Find Love Again After Loss

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 09.28.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

When I see pictures of onetime widowed looking radiant in a wedding gown or resplendent in a tuxedo, grinning broadly for the camera while reveling in newfound love; when I see people who have endured the machinations of divorce eventually rediscover love and follow their new path with an amazing new someone... it is such a wonderful feeling.

Why Widowers Should Never Give Up On Finding Love Again

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 09.21.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Thank God for my second wife to understand and not be threatened by my love for my first wife. Anyone who doesn't understand and gives you grief about that isn't worth a tinker's damn!

The Reality Of Remarriage After Widowhood

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 09.14.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

A few months ago, a well-known actor mentioned in an interview that he still thinks about his late wife. People were shocked at this 'stunning revelation', as the same actor has been happily remarried for a number of years. This sort of 'shocked' reaction begs an obvious question. Since when did remarriage become an equation formula that reads: Remarried = Forgetting?

What Happens When You Are Thrust Into Independence

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.31.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It feels like we just got done with New Years, so it is unbelievable to me that we are now preparing to celebrate the Fourth of July; the 237th year of our independence as a nation. Along with my family, I will be celebrating at home with hot dogs and homemade coleslaw.

What Not To Say During Times Of Loss

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.27.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

At one time or another, most of us have been in the position of providing sympathy, comfort and encouragement to someone who has experienced a loss. Unfortunately, not everyone offers support in a way that is sympathetic, comforting or encouraging (and in some cases, not even positive).

How To Break The News Of A Parent's Death

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.20.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Seldom will anything break your heart as easily as the sight of your child in unbelievable emotional pain... and what greater pain is there to a child than the tragic loss of a parent. Though it has been many years since his death, my daughter still experiences bouts of sadness because Daddy is not here anymore.

Why There Is No Such Thing As 'Getting Over' Your Spouse's Death

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.13.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Sometimes I feel really sorry for my family. They are the unfortunate souls who have to listen to my bellyaching on any given day.