Although it may be tempting to do otherwise, do not choose to dwell on the unfairness of your widowhood. The unfairness is a given, however dwelling on the unfairness will not take you in the healing direction that you wish to travel.
I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.
In what is known as Widowed World, widowhood is defined as: 'A club that absolutely no one willingly joins; a state of existence that will upend your life as you knew it and forever change the rest of your life from what you had previously and carefully designed into a scary and uncertain future.'
Lights, music, festivities, and feasts all around -- but if you're grieving the loss of a loved one, it is anything but "the most wonderful time of the year." If you're grieving and are wondering how you'll survive the season, use the following six suggestions to ease the way.
No one has the right to criticize how anyone suffering a loss handles anything -- from whether or not they visit a gravesite (be it sooner, later or ever) to a decision to sell everything that they own and sail around the world.
Movies are a wonderful way to begin a discussion. With children, especially little kids, it gives them an emotional vocabulary. How does this character feel -- happy, sad, confused. Here's a list of movies and five guided discussion topics.
Finding solace in ordinary tasks like gardening and organizing can be very comforting and even therapeutic when people are grieving, whether it is the death of a loved one or the loss of someone to a life-altering illness such as dementia.
We should continue our cultural tradition of recognizing grief as a normal (and expected) human experience. If anything, the grieving person may benefit from support and sympathy, rather than being diagnosed as mentally ill and treated as such.
The challenges that families must face when confronted with a terminal diagnosis of a loved one are complex. They include evolving new structures and dynamics as the person they love slowly slips away.
Dec. 25 and many other holiday or "anniversary" dates can be highly significant. These include birthdays, marital anniversaries and days when loved ones died. This phenomenon, often deeply painful, is called an "Anniversary Reaction."
When my traumatized states could not find a hospitable relational home or context of human understanding, I became deadened, and my world became dulled. When such a home became once again present, I came alive, and the vividness of my world returned.
The ongoing development of sophisticated medical diagnostic and treatment technologies has led to what I have termed "the new grief." It represents a crisis that may ebb and flow in intensity over time.