I'm reminded of the description of "A Good Death" that Henry Murray passed onto a friend and mentor of mine. He said: "It's dying so as to be as little a pain in the a** to your family and friends as possible."
The death of 13-year-old Julia Siegler, who was killed in a traffic accident while trying to catch her school bus, has affected me more in a way than the tragedies in Haiti and Chile. I'm not sure why.
It is brutally shocking when our lives are falling apart and the rest of the world doesn't seem to notice. The first time I experienced this was when my husband was lying in a hospital bed fighting for his life.