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Guilt

The One Time In Your Life It's OK To Cheat

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 07.23.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

For over 20 years, mom has made weekly trips to see Deb, her hair dresser. Often my mother would regale me with tales of woe. Not her own, but poor Deb's. My mom, a psychotherapist by training, had great empathy for Deb, a single mother whose history was marred by misfortune. But there was only one problem with this relationship. Deb could not cut hair.

6 Ways To Lighten The Weight Of Guilt

The Huffington Post | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 07.18.2014 | Healthy Living

It's a simple truth that we're prone to making mistakes. While we'd all like to avoid that sinking feeling we get when we've dropped the ball, we're o...

Navigating Early Intervention

Karen Cordano | Posted 07.11.2014 | Parents
Karen Cordano

Before the outburst, I'd told myself I'd stay cool. We were doing what was best for C and that is what mattered. This whole thing was not a value judgment on him or on our parenting. And yet, suddenly, I was the parent who did not want to hear it.

Miracle Message at the Corner Store

Lisa Guest | Posted 07.11.2014 | Books
Lisa Guest

We are never really alone. No matter what trial awaits us or causes us grief, other friendly souls with just the right ingredient for the moment appear to make the recipe work.

7 Ways To Actually Relax On Your Next Vacation

Caroline Dowd-Higgins | Posted 07.08.2014 | Women
Caroline Dowd-Higgins

It's vacation season and the time of year to step away from work to recharge and refresh. Sadly, many people don't take all the vacation days they earn. Others who take vacation end up working during their time off which defeats the purpose entirely.

11 Traits That Block Success for High-Achievers

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 06.30.2014 | Business
Paula Davis-Laack

For as long as I can remember, I have been driven and achievement-oriented. It started when I was six, playing tee-ball for the first time. I got a ...

Bombs Are Medication For Guilt, Not Peace, In Iraq

Matthew Hoh | Posted 06.20.2014 | Politics
Matthew Hoh

This civil war in Iraq is a war caused by our invasion and nearly decade long occupation, no doubt, but it is a war that will only worsen if the United States once again returns and takes a side. As with so many modern wars, a solution lies not in killing, but in compromise.

Thriving, Not Surviving

Heather Martin | Posted 06.13.2014 | Women
Heather Martin

I'm not quite sure how I will get from surviving to thriving. Life didn't exactly provide a road map. But I assure you, I am still breathing, and therefore will continue to try.

Visiting My Father and the Cross on the Hill

Amy Flory | Posted 06.12.2014 | Parents
Amy Flory

Climbing the desert landscape to pay our respects on this sweltering day, my mother wonders with a smile, would my father enjoy the extra effort it takes to brave snakes and extreme heat in the summer, and below freezing temperatures and snow in the winter, just to say hello? We decide that he would. He enjoyed watching people squirm. I am like him in that way.

A Baby Boomer's Liberal Guilt Regarding Edward Snowden

Carol Smaldino | Posted 06.10.2014 | Impact
Carol Smaldino

In being an advocate of the Civil Rights movement in this country, in being an advocate of peace during the Vietnam War, there was a sense of rightness about it, perhaps one could even say righteousness

I'll Take What I Can Get -- Me Time

Lori Ferraro | Posted 07.29.2014 | Parents
Lori Ferraro

It's a sad fact that I now consider a trip to the dentist as "me" time. I pray I don't get the chatty hygienist and that I can just close my eyes and have 30 minutes of quiet.

Dad Guilt

Daniel B. Peters, Ph.D. | Posted 07.21.2014 | Parents
Daniel B. Peters, Ph.D.

These thoughts keep coming and coming. Am I prioritizing my career over my kids? Why do I feel so guilty? What am I doing wrong? Am I doing enough?

Optional Obligations

Lita Smith-Mines | Posted 07.20.2014 | Women
Lita Smith-Mines

There's something about the making of plans and the scheduling of meetings that doesn't seem as concrete as it used to be. Have you noticed it as well...

THE 80/20 VIEW OF GUILT

Richard Koch | Posted 07.20.2014 | Business
Richard Koch

Is guilt useful or an unhealthy hangover from medieval Christianity? I've been thinking about this and would like to present a new 80/20 view of guil...

For Me? I Don't Think So: Saying No to Unwanted Gifts

Mary-Lou Stephens | Posted 07.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary-Lou Stephens

Just because you are a good person who practices empathy and compassion doesn't mean you're a doormat. If someone tries to dump their negativity on you remember the problem is not yours unless you choose to accept it.

A Simple Mind Trick That Will Help You Manage Stress

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 07.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

In a Seinfeld episode titled "The Jimmy," the character of George finds himself in a stressful situation and starts speaking in the third person: "Geo...

Why I'll Never Publicly Name The Friend Who Caused My Paralysis

Rachelle Friedman | Posted 07.06.2014 | Women
Rachelle Friedman

I'm not just a "paralyzed bride." I'm Rachelle, a regular girl who had everything going for her when it all came crashing down. And my dear friend, who had only innocent intentions, is not just the girl who pushed me.

How to Deal With Life's Little Lessons

Mary Pritchard | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Pritchard

So rather than hiding under a rock, I have learned that processing each lesson the universe sends me is essential for my well-being. I have learned that if I don't want to have to learn that lesson again, I need to do three things: Eat it, digest it and eliminate it.

On Escaping The Shame Spiral

Jill Di Donato | Posted 06.21.2014 | Women
Jill Di Donato

It's no easy feat to admit to flaws, because that means they're real and we have to confront them. Accepting our mistakes or shortcomings -- choices that may not have served us well, unflattering ways others may perceive us, or subtle imperfections that gnaw away at us -- is uncomfortable in the short-term, but acknowledging them can ward off long-term problems.

5 Ways Dwelling On The Negative Affects Your Well-Being

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 06.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

While it is natural to reflect on upsetting experiences, brooding involves replaying the same scenes in your mind and reliving the emotional distress you felt at the time. Once you are in the habit of ruminating, the urge to brood can be easy to trigger and difficult to ignore.

7 Ways to Care Rather Than Care-Take

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

When we are care-giving rather than care-taking, we do these things willingly because it is loving to ourselves and to the other to do so, and we do not feel the resentment that we often feel when we give ourselves up to care-take.

Why Trying to Make a Guy Feel Guilty for Mistreating You Is a Waste of Time

Samara O'Shea | Posted 06.01.2014 | Women
Samara O'Shea

The best way to let a guy know he cannot treat you badly is to walk away. Don't look back. Walking away doesn't make you a doormat -- standing there and continuing to put yourself in his path does.

How Loss Affects Our Daily Lives

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 05.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Recovering from loss takes time but there are ways to treat our psychological injuries. Caring for our emotional wounds will help accelerate the recovery process so we emerge from our loss with our lives, identities, relationships, and beliefs intact.

Alzheimer's Caregivers: The Pros and Cons of Placing Your Loved One in a Facility

Marie Marley | Posted 05.18.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

The caregiver may have promised his or her loved one many years before to never put them in any kind of facility for any reason. Breaking that promise would be extraordinarily difficult.

Divorce Confidential: Managing Your Emotions During A Divorce

Caroline Choi | Posted 05.13.2014 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

Can someone say "social media" as the new therapeutic emotional outlet?