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5 Ways Dwelling On The Negative Affects Your Well-Being

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 04.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

While it is natural to reflect on upsetting experiences, brooding involves replaying the same scenes in your mind and reliving the emotional distress you felt at the time. Once you are in the habit of ruminating, the urge to brood can be easy to trigger and difficult to ignore.

7 Ways to Care Rather Than Care-Take

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

When we are care-giving rather than care-taking, we do these things willingly because it is loving to ourselves and to the other to do so, and we do not feel the resentment that we often feel when we give ourselves up to care-take.

Why Trying to Make a Guy Feel Guilty for Mistreating You Is a Waste of Time

Samara O'Shea | Posted 04.01.2014 | Women
Samara O'Shea

The best way to let a guy know he cannot treat you badly is to walk away. Don't look back. Walking away doesn't make you a doormat -- standing there and continuing to put yourself in his path does.

How Loss Affects Our Daily Lives

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 03.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Recovering from loss takes time but there are ways to treat our psychological injuries. Caring for our emotional wounds will help accelerate the recovery process so we emerge from our loss with our lives, identities, relationships, and beliefs intact.

Alzheimer's Caregivers: The Pros and Cons of Placing Your Loved One in a Facility

Marie Marley | Posted 03.18.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

The caregiver may have promised his or her loved one many years before to never put them in any kind of facility for any reason. Breaking that promise would be extraordinarily difficult.

Divorce Confidential: Managing Your Emotions During A Divorce

Caroline Choi | Posted 03.13.2014 | Divorce
Caroline Choi

Can someone say "social media" as the new therapeutic emotional outlet?

How Guilt Plays Tricks On Your Mind

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 03.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Recent studies demonstrate that guilt is more of a trickster than we realized. Guilt influences our unconscious as well as our conscious minds. The ways in which it does so are quite surprising.

Sin, Guilt, and Psychology: What I Wish All Pastors Knew

Derek Flood | Posted 03.03.2014 | Religion
Derek Flood

We have come to associate guilt today with negative ideas like "guilt-trips," and with feelings of shame. As a result, when the subject of guilt and sin are brought up, our defensive walls go up, too.

Why I Ditched a Shame-Based Faith

Heather Kopp | Posted 02.27.2014 | Religion
Heather Kopp

I often write about the power of shame in the context of recovery. But shame is a human problem, and long-time Christians are in no ways immune. I was a Christian--and a slave to shame--for more than a decade before I became a slave to alcohol.

Chocolate Lover? Ban Words Like Indulge and Treat

Michelle May, M.D. | Posted 02.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Michelle May, M.D.

Even though some expert gave you "permission" to eat a limited amount of a favorite food like chocolate, these subtle messages feed unconscious feelings of judgment and deprivation that may lead to paradoxical overeating.

And Let It Begin With Me

Bethany Thies | Posted 04.02.2014 | Parents
Bethany Thies

It's the end of the common sense world as we know it and I feel... incredibly guilty. Incredibly caught up in the very nonsense I rail against.

Loving Your Feet

Trish Kinney | Posted 03.29.2014 | Women
Trish Kinney

These amazing feet of mine have never complained, just kept on giving day after day, decade after decade.

The Dreaded Last Day Of Maternity Leave

Lori Ferraro | Posted 03.24.2014 | Parents
Lori Ferraro

I started to feel guilty, thinking this was the way I had chosen to spend my monumental "last day" with Sam. Then I looked down into his blue-gray eyes as he chugged from his bottle and I knew it really didn't matter where we were.

Frozen Land, Moving Pictures

Nancy Graham Holm | Posted 03.23.2014 | Arts
Nancy Graham Holm

Scandinavian film buffs know about it, as well as other Europeans, but it remains a secret to most North Americans.

Envelope Season

Maggie Van Ostrand | Posted 03.23.2014 | Comedy
Maggie Van Ostrand

This is the season where awards shows give out their envelopes of excellence. I'm more concerned with another kind of envelope, the kind charities sen...

Regret and Her Horrible Twin, Guilt: A Parable about a Hidden Force that May Be Keeping You Stuck

Michelle May, M.D. | Posted 03.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Michelle May, M.D.

While there's always room for improvement, toddlers fall down many times before becoming proficient at walking. They may cry but they don't feel ashamed. Instead they get up, make adjustments, and try again.

What Being Homeless at Christmas Taught Me About Leadership

Holly Hamann | Posted 03.04.2014 | Denver
Holly Hamann

I found clothes that would make me look impoverished and bought shoes that were uncomfortably small. I made myself up to look unclean and greasy and carried my belongings in a bag. It had snowed the night before, so I intentionally underdressed.

A New Twist on the Old Resolution

Chris Waddell | Posted 03.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Chris Waddell

To struggle is human. I don't just want to do what obligation tells me to do. I want to live, and that means finding the balance to play -- to do what a body is not obliged to do. Last year was physical, and this year is mental. Next year, I'll add another layer to the work in progress.

I Apologize for Existing

Jenny G. Perry | Posted 02.15.2014 | Women
Jenny G. Perry

Being me always conquers being perfect. I chose me. I chose well-being and that it wouldn't beat me again.

7 Willpower Hacks To Help You Get Out Of Your Own Way

Posted 12.04.2013 | Healthy Living

We may know powerfully and innately what's most important to us, but when it comes to acting on our deepest values, many of us tend to get in our own ...

The Art of Failure and Why It's Good for You

Caroline Dowd-Higgins | Posted 02.01.2014 | Women
Caroline Dowd-Higgins

Failure should not be a mark of shame, but a badge of honor showing the world that you are willing to try again. Here are some of my failure lessons that may help you navigate the next bump on your professional road.

The Only Message I Want To Send To Other Parents

Brenna Jennings | Posted 01.31.2014 | Parents
Brenna Jennings

We all do it right, and we all do it wrong, and I really believe that we all do it the best we know how.

The Trouble With Happiness

Jillian Lauren | Posted 01.27.2014 | Women
Jillian Lauren

I crossed the Seine one night on the Pont des Arts (laden with thousands of pad locks, inscribed with messages of love) while the full moon hung in a gauzy web of clouds above me, the water beneath shimmering under the amber streetlights. Gratitude broke over me like rain. And then just as quickly, I felt guilty.

5 Tips for Minimizing Family Tensions Over Thanksgiving

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

Family gatherings over the holidays usually involve heightened emotions of all kinds. Such events might begin with an atmosphere of joy, connection, love and caring but they don't always end on the same note.

What Do You Do When Death Is a Relief?

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Death is a complicated subject and something that we all must come to terms with in our own ways. There is no "right way" to grieve. Instead there are different approaches to making sense of loss.