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Living in the 'Should's

Dr. Debbie Magids | Posted 07.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Debbie Magids

Is the "should" you're doing getting in the way of you having the life you want? Is it contributing to you being unhappy? If the answer is yes, then you owe it to yourself to start making some new choices and releasing yourself.

Missing My Sister Michelle

Kelli Gail | Posted 07.21.2013 | Women
Kelli Gail

This Memorial Day Weekend marks ten years since I've seen my little sister. I like to think she'd be proud of the person I have become.

4 Things You Should Stop Feeling Guilty About

Posted 05.20.2013 | Healthy Living

By Sam Ferrigno for HooplaHa.com A common thread in humanity is self-sabotage. In our never-ending quest for happiness and achievement, a small, pi...

I Didn't Understand Mommy Guilt Until Now

Erin J. Shea | Posted 07.13.2013 | Parents
Erin J. Shea

Now that my daughter is a toddler, and now that my job has become more demanding, let the guilt begin.

When a Ball Isn't Just a Ball

Caren Chesler | Posted 07.10.2013 | Parents
Caren Chesler

When I looked up from my phone, Eddie said, "Ball?" I looked around the park and it was nowhere to be found. I had been derelict in my duties and now the ball was gone. I feared that next time, it might be my son.

Why I Stopped Feeling Guilty About My Divorce

Cynthia L. Copeland | Posted 07.08.2013 | Divorce
Cynthia L. Copeland

Jack bounded down the stairs and thrust sheets of lined paper at me. "Mom, would you check over my essay for English? I'll be back after practice." It...

Magical Thinking About Unread Books

Lillian Daniel | Posted 06.29.2013 | Religion
Lillian Daniel

I am always carrying books around in the hope of reading them. It's as if I believe that if I continually carry piles of books from my church, to my car, to my home and then back to church again, the information from all those books will somehow just sink into my aching arms.

My Wife And I Wish We Weren't Having Twins

Babble.com | Posted 06.24.2013 | Parents
Babble.com

While we were hoping for one girl, instead we got two boys. My initial reaction was full of disappointment, anger, fear, and guilt. My wife, who had been dreading the possibility of twins for weeks, took it worse.

20 Things My Daughter Wants Me To Feel Guilty About

Babble.com | Posted 06.22.2013 | Parents
Babble.com

Here's the thing about this onslaught of mom guilt: I refuse to engage. What's helped deflect it is knowing that I am not a perfect mom, because there is no such thing as a perfect mom. I am a doing-the-best-that-I-can mom.

Faith And Mercy: Who Among Us Is Most Likely To Forgive?

David Briggs | Posted 06.11.2013 | Religion
David Briggs

Many religious people count on God's forgiveness, but it is far more difficult to put aside human feelings of bitterness and resentment to pardon others. New research, however, shows the two spiritual goals are related.

Guilt

Cynthia Gallagher | Posted 05.13.2013 | Women
Cynthia Gallagher

Guilt will slow you down, it will present itself as a roadblock to success and it will have you second -guessing every decision you make. Sheryl Sandberg's latest book and online venture Lean In has sparked another level of conversation around the concept of guilt.

New-Age Guilt

Christine Eilvig | Posted 05.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Christine Eilvig

When we go for the blame, we end up as victims for ourselves or others. When we take responsibility, the whole discussion on blame, guilt and shame becomes completely unnecessary. All we have to do is to take our part of the responsibility and readjust the course.

Why Do People Stay in Abusive Relationships?

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 05.01.2013 | Politics
Dr. Craig Malkin

Mark Warden's recent comments about domestic violence reflect our shared confusion and impatience as a society. It doesn't matter whether we're conservatives or liberals, ignorant or well-informed, we all have an instant negative reaction when we see people return to or stay in abusive relationships.

Do People Sometimes Accuse You of Being Too Sensitive?

Maureen Anderson | Posted 04.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Maureen Anderson

To inspire people to find work they love, and live without regret. I used to think that was the goal of my talk show. And it is, but there's somethin...

10 Truths I've Learned About Parenting

Alison Lee | Posted 04.09.2013 | Parents
Alison Lee

As far as parenting journeys go, mine is still in its toddler stages, literally and metaphorically -- three years and counting. However, even in three short years of imperfect parenting, these 10 truths keep coming back to me.

Are You Kind Enough to Yourself?

Helene Lerner | Posted 04.02.2013 | Women
Helene Lerner

With Valentine's Day almost here, it's important to keep in mind that the most important relationship in our lives is the one we have with ourselves.

3 Causes of Burnout -- and How to Avoid Them

Catherine Chen, Ph.D. | Posted 03.27.2013 | Women
Catherine Chen, Ph.D.

By cultivating attitudes and practices that release self-induced pressure, you can have the work-life balance that you want. Even the smallest decisions can transform the way you work and live.

Sandy Hook One Month Later: How We're Doing Now

Miranda Pacchiana | Posted 03.16.2013 | Parents
Miranda Pacchiana

A month after the mass shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, the TV trucks have gone, the large makeshift memorials have been taken down and the road past the school is finally open to traffic. Still, there are reminders of the tragedy all over town.

When Shame Met Anger

Carine Fabius | Posted 03.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Carine Fabius

Haitians have a famous saying about shame and anger; my mother says it all the time when talking about someone who hides behind a wall of anger because they are ashamed of their own behavior but won't or don't know how to admit it. Li fe la wont sevi kole.

Expectations and Resolutions: A Mash-Off Between Faith, Facts and Fictions

Soul Dancer | Posted 03.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Soul Dancer

With 2013's arrival, much like a gardener using a shovel to prepare for planting (then one day, harvesting), I invite you to explore your faith, facts and fictions with the following questions (shovels) over the weeks and months ahead.

Is Guilt a Time-Bound Emotion?

Francis Levy | Posted 03.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Francis Levy

Whether you are feeling guilty or feeling in danger of being guilty as charged, you have effectively removed yourself from the present tense.

Define Career Success on Your Own Terms in 2013

Caroline Dowd-Higgins | Posted 03.04.2013 | Women
Caroline Dowd-Higgins

As I travel the country talking with women, what I've consistently heard is that they want meaningful work that allows them to play to their strengths and to define success on their own terms. Even in this recovering economy, women don't just want jobs -- they want careers with a purpose.

10 New Year's Resolutions That I Vow to Actually Keep

Anna Goldfarb | Posted 03.02.2013 | Women
Anna Goldfarb

New Year's resolutions, get out of my face! Maybe it's just me, but I'm not a huge fan of taking moral inventory of my life's decisions after I've been binging on holiday cookies for a month straight.

Reduce Stress: Upgrade Expectations to Agreements

Soul Dancer | Posted 02.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Soul Dancer

Take a moment now to ponder your definition of a fact. How do you accept something as a fact? Do you take time to verify (through first-hand experience) a fact before you accept a fact to be true? How often do you check facts?

What Are You Teaching Your Kids About Work?

Maureen Anderson | Posted 02.26.2013 | Business
Maureen Anderson

"Is that the example you want to give Katie?" he asked. "Do you want her to feel guilty when she's doing nothing wrong?" The room got very quiet as I reached for a Kleenex. "Don't worry," Marshall said. "Everyone cries when I do this."