When we go for the blame, we end up as victims for ourselves or others. When we take responsibility, the whole discussion on blame, guilt and shame becomes completely unnecessary. All we have to do is to take our part of the responsibility and readjust the course.
As the season soaks or shrivels expectations, hopes blossom into blessed bliss or dissolve due to daily duress. With seasons officially changing, we enter into a unique 10 days where expectations rapidly climax or crash, awash in faiths, facts or fictions.
At its best, guilt can help me understand where I'd like to make changes. It provides clarity as to what is or is not working regarding certain behaviors, and I can then take that information and use it as the impetus to learn, speak and act in ways that are more in alignment to my true desires.
Our first reaction with our friends is to try to please them by showing our support, especially when they are long-time friends or work colleagues. Saying "yes" becomes a default, to show either that we are on their side and fully supportive or to avoid conflict.
In the two weeks since its release in Mexican theaters, Presumed Guilty, a documentary about Mexican judicial corruption, has shocked moviegoers, broken box office records, and now been ordered out of theaters by a Mexican judge.