When we go for the blame, we end up as victims for ourselves or others. When we take responsibility, the whole discussion on blame, guilt and shame becomes completely unnecessary. All we have to do is to take our part of the responsibility and readjust the course.

As the season soaks or shrivels expectations, hopes blossom into blessed bliss or dissolve due to daily duress. With seasons officially changing, we enter into a unique 10 days where expectations rapidly climax or crash, awash in faiths, facts or fictions.

Surely we should relish those rare things that make us happy. Surely we should experience the full, rich range of our emotions. And surely we can live freer lives without the dead weight of guilt.

At its best, guilt can help me understand where I'd like to make changes. It provides clarity as to what is or is not working regarding certain behaviors, and I can then take that information and use it as the impetus to learn, speak and act in ways that are more in alignment to my true desires.