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Healthy Relationships

A Simple Test to See if You're Kidding Yourself

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 03.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Deirdre Maloney

When you kid yourself, then you don't actually have to do anything that causes change or ill feelings. Just think of what might happen if you add in some more good stuff and subtract some of the stuff you hate. Imagine it. Then make it so.

The Secret To Feeling More In Control

Jennifer Hamady | Posted 03.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Hamady

If you're struggling -- if you're feeling out of, or the need for, control -- it's less likely that something's wrong with the object of your desires, and more likely that there's something you've been unwilling to give up in order get what it is you say you want.

6 Ways to Make Your Relationship Outstanding

David Wygant | Posted 03.09.2013 | Women
David Wygant

These are some of my favorite little tips to not only keep a relationship running smoothly, but to make it outstanding. People are always looking for the "home run" thing to do, but it's really the little things you do that pay off in the long run.

The Sex Talk I Had With My Mom When I Was 20

Nadia Cho | Posted 03.09.2013 | College
Nadia Cho

This holiday season, I came out to my mom about being sexually active, being bisexual, writing about sex for my college newspaper and then getting a ton of media attention for my column on having sex in the library. But did I also mention that I got straight A's this semester?

The 21-Minute Marriage Cure!

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.05.2013 | Science
Wray Herbert

Any offer of something for nothing is almost always a gimmick or scam. But what if such a claim were based on scientific theory and supported by credible evidence? Would we be able to put our skepticism aside and give the claim a fair hearing, even if it sounds outlandish?

Love In The New Year: Happily Ever After Is A Possibility

David Katz, M.D. | Posted 02.28.2013 | Healthy Living
David Katz, M.D.

Happy ever after is possible after all -- if we tally the reasons for it in one another's eyes. And remember why we started to keep that tally. And remember to keep on doing so. And remember to remember.

How to DTR (Define-The-Relationship)

Nadia Cho | Posted 02.20.2013 | College
Nadia Cho

It's important for non-exclusive partners to have dialogue about their respective relationship preferences. Heartbreak comes from a discrepancy in intentions and expectations.

How Not To Get Cheated On Again

Christina Pesoli | Posted 02.13.2013 | Divorce
Christina Pesoli

Navigating a new relationship after getting cheated on in your last relationship can be tricky business.

The 7 Ingredients Of A Healthy Relationship

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

By doing your own inner work to become an emotionally responsible, kind and loving person with yourself and your partner, you can create a healthy, loving relationship!

Relationship Advice: On Arguing Less

Noah Kass | Posted 12.08.2012 | Healthy Living
Noah Kass

There's nothing wrong with occasional fights between partners. However, relationship issues multiply when fighting becomes the the expected mode of communication. This familiar battling debilitates rather than promotes a couple's bond.

Making Friends Takes a Lot of Energy. Is It Worth It?

Shasta Nelson, M.Div. | Posted 02.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Shasta Nelson, M.Div.

May you be reminded that your willingness to engage, to meet new people, to initiate the next get-together, to schedule women into your life and to foster these friendships over time is proving to raise your wellbeing! And don't we all want that?

The Dos And Don'ts Of A Healthy Mental Diet

Laurie Gerber | Posted 02.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Laurie Gerber

As one of my favorite manifesting teachers, Neville Goddard, asks: "What thoughts are you 'consenting' to?" I love that he used the word "consent," because it describes the active role each of us has with our thoughts, as author of our mental habits.

6 Ways To Fight Without Ruining Your Marriage

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 01.31.2013 | Weddings
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

Most of all, don't lose sight of why you're bothering to fight in the first place. If it's worth the energy to make a change in your relationship or voice your opinion, it means you're invested in finding a resolution to the issue.

Feeling Empty Inside? How To Fill Up

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Inner emptiness does not come from a lack of something external -- not even a lack of being loved by someone else. It comes from a lack of one thing only: a lack of awareness of the love that is the energy we live in.

The Fallen Generals Point to Our Own Private Truths

Douglas LaBier | Posted 01.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Douglas LaBier

For some, the personal-private gap will erupt in self-destructive ways when, unconsciously, the person wants to subvert the whole enterprise that he or she has embraced, and bring it crashing down. At best, you become fragmented, "dismembered," like Osiris.

Speaking Wisely: How The Buddha Might Communicate

Rick Hanson, Ph.D. | Posted 01.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

With time and a little practice, you will find yourself "speaking wisely" without consciously thinking about it. You might be amazed at the powerful, assertive ways you can communicate within the frame of these six guidelines.

The Dos And Don'ts Of A Healthy Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When it comes to their intimate relationships, individuals can make any decision they want about monogamy, as long as this decision is mutually agreed upon by both partners.

Can the Infidelity-Damaged Relationship Survive?

Dr. Peggy Drexler | Posted 01.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Peggy Drexler

The Petraeus and Broadwell families can take comfort in one thing: this too shall pass. When it does, they will be alone to face days that most who have experienced them call the toughest time of their lives.

The Risks Of Loving Fully: Do You Hold Back Out Of Fear?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.21.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The point C.S. Lewis makes in The Four Loves is that closing our heart to the risk of heartbreak creates a living hell. The truth is that while heartbreak is extremely painful, it is not nearly as painful as the hell we create for ourselves when we hold back loving out of our fear of getting hurt.

6 Simple Habits That Will Recharge (And Revive!) Your Family Dinners

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 01.21.2013 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

If you're not feeling connected to your spouse after work, if family dinner in your house has disintegrated into a chaotic free-for-all, then it's time to make some changes to your evening meal routine.

6 Ways To Feel Less Resentful

Gretchen Rubin | Posted 01.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Gretchen Rubin

Resentment comes when you feel angry that you've been treated unfairly. But what is "fair" when deciding who should do what work?

What Is Intolerable to You in a Relationship?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If you are looking for a committed relationship, you have a much better chance of creating a loving relationship if you are very clear on what you want and what is not tolerable to you

De-Stress the Holidays

Robert V. Taylor | Posted 01.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Robert V. Taylor

Holiday stress is an ironic reality for many. The anxiety that such stress produces is a sharp counterpoint to the holiday spirit of joy, peace, goodwill and gratitude! The good news is that instead of being captive to the stress, our mindful choices invite a de-stressing that is life-giving.

Boundaries for the Alcoholic Parent/Grandparent

Carole Bennett, MA | Posted 01.15.2013 | Healthy Living
Carole Bennett, MA

t's one thing to implement boundaries on your own toward one person or a whole group, but when those boundaries involve others, it is important to calculate each step, think it out, talk it out and try and prepare for any outcome -- good, bad or indifferent.

Couples That Play Together, Stay Together

Sadie Dingfelder | Posted 01.15.2013 | Healthy Living
Sadie Dingfelder

In his book Play, psychiatrist Stewart Brown says that play is key to keeping relationships from hardening into drudgery. But once you're coupled up and having regular discussions about who did the dishes last, play may not come as easily.