Remember that old house in the historic district of your town / So old that whatever was once Tom Sawyer white / Painted picket is brown and most of the windows were / Boarded up so tight from the inside out.
If I could offer words of advice to my brokenhearted, 16-year-old self, it would be just this: Trust with your whole heart and don't hold yourself back from life even if all hell breaks loose and take the flying leap, come what may.
Relationships are fertile ground for learning about ourselves -- about our unloving behavior that creates the very disconnection we don't want, and about the loving behavior that brings aliveness, joy and passion to our relationship.
All children need time to adjust to anything new in their lives. As a mother your only mistake was not recognizing that you needed to slow the relationship down so you could get to know this man better and not throw your children into the vortex you co-created.
Strengths hide in even the most difficult days -- days when we can't even identify having felt a little less down. At the end of such a day, the question to ask is this: How did you get through the day?